Argumentative Essay

Advantages of Permissive Parenting
Relating to your child more as a friend than a parent can give a Mum or dad a greater understanding of what makes their child tick and as they get older, communication can be easier. Being positive about what children are doing and saying can raise levels of self-esteem and give them the knowledge that their parents will accept them and love them whatever they say or do.
Disadvantages of Permissive Parenting
Children of permissive parents have no boundaries, and as discussed above find it difficult in situations where they have to do as they are told. This can lead to them being dependent on others to do things for them, and studies have shown that children of parents who never said the word “No” are more likely to get into trouble with the Police, drink or drugs when they are older. Children who are used to having things their own way can also become very frustrated and aggressive when rules are enforced.
Summary
Permissive parenting isn’t a conscious choice that many parents make; they are simply doing what they think is for the best. However, it’s essential to recognise that being a parent is more about giving boundaries and making rules than it is about being your child’s best friend.
The dictionary definition of permissive is “allowing or characterised by great or excessive freedom of behaviour”. In a nutshell, permissive parenting is parenting without boundaries. Children are allowed to set their own boundaries such as when they will go to bed, what they will eat and whether or not they will do their homework. Equating permissive parenting with a lack of love or interest in children though is not correct, and families who parent in this manner are generally very loving and caring towards their children. One of the best words to use to describe this sort of parenting is indulgent, although outsiders may see the parents as spoiling their children and trying to be their friend rather than a parent.
There is always a conflict between the parents and the child. The child has always a concern that their parents are not giving them freedom. And it’s true. Parents don’t give their child freedom. So the child only gets his/her wish fulfilled by some or the other means. But I think we should listen to our parents.
Our parents have seen the world that we are leaving in in a more detailed way. They are more experienced than us. They know the mistakes that we are going to make if we don’t listen to them as they have experienced what happens in those mistakes. The mistakes we make can ruin our entire life. So that’s the reason we should listen to our parents.
But sometimes the child is also correct and parents are incorrect. Child wants a thing and parents don’t purchase it as it is expensive. But what if the thing is of great importance? Let’s take my example. My father had to purchase a laptop for my sister who needed it for studying purposes. I used to play games in it and had learnt many things that my sister did also not know. Than my sister had to go out of country to study and unfortunately had to take her laptop. So I made a request to my parents to purchase me a new laptop. But they just refused. Now in this type of situations the child is correct as laptop/pc is of great importance. It makes our life easier. It prepares it for the future world.
But the child should also understand. If their parents give them full freedom and money, the child will only waste the money. Let me give you my example. If my parents give me money, I’ll just waste it in buying PSP, PS3, PS2 and all that stuff. That’s a total waste of money. So almost all the decisions made by our parents is correct.