H : Yesterday you were talking about depression and how to cure it.
Baba Ji: "Naam bina sabh mithia hai - bereft of Naam all is temporary."
“I am” is a depression. What you call normal life is actually all depression. Ask anybody how they feel. Children will say that they are bored or fed up. Fed up already at such a young age? Why? Because of the desires for more toys. More desires means more depression, more anxiety and more stress. Unfulfilled wishes create stress. Stress feeds anger, resentment and all the other attributes of anger pile up. These are all feeding your ego and when your ego is not happy it is called depression.
However, in ego Truth is not known. For example, it is customary to buy jewellery and gifts for a wedding, but it is all less than the Truth. If it was Truth, dealings bewtween people would be heart to heart. By making marriage into an exchange of gifts and full of ceremonies, people are not winning hearts, they are just trading in bodies and exchanging possessions in order to please people's egos.
It is the same in Sikhsim. People are paying for ritualistic readings (Akhand Paat), they are buying and selling God's word.
A truer marriage is when two souls deal heart to heart. But the truest divine marriage as written in GurBani (God's Words) is when a Bhagat (saint) meets GOD within the self. That is the real marriage. People often say they are soul mates – actually they are not united with each other. The real union happens the moment your ego dies whilst you are still alive in body. Then you are one with Him. Anything that is done under the influence of Maya is a depression. Any unfulfilled dreams end in depression because it’s a house of illusion.
Over-thinking is also a sign of depression, stress and anxiety. And what is over-thinking? Either the guy says, "I need respect," or "I need acclamation in everything, my achievements". The punishment for all this is depression.
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