Boundaries Definition
Boundaries Essay I have been in church since I was younger. With my nana being a pastor, my mother a youth leader, and my father a deacon, at church, I have grown up with a strong religious background. Because I was brought up in such a religious based background, I have developed a mentality that many girls my age may not have. For example ,Hebrews 13:4 – states that “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” This is showing that sex should not occur before marriage, and I follow this because it would go against God’s will if I were to do otherwise. Also, with my mom being a youth leader at church, her ultimate goal is to inform us youth of things
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such as abstinence. In addition to this, she has informed me of things that should and shouldn’t be done in a relationship. Therefore, my mother and my religious background have influenced me when it comes to my relationship boundaries. There are many characteristics I value in a relationship, with the first being honesty.
I feel as though I am unable to have a true relationship without honesty. If I am unable to trust my partner then I believe my relationship is bound for failure. Another characteristic I value in a relationship is respect. In a relationship my partner and I must have respect for one another and also our beliefs. I feel as though if there is no respect for my partner and their beliefs, then it is just a one way relationship because one of us may not truly care for that other person. Respect also ties into another characteristic I value in a relationship, which is shared power. This is important because I have hopes, dreams, and goals and I need someone who supports me as I plan to do the same for them. I also believe physical affection is a characteristic that I value in a relationship. In each relationship physical affection should be present because it just shows our love for one another through our actions. Although I believe physical affection is important, I believe that it is important for the each of us to ask before making a move because it can make the other person uncomfortable if they do not ask! Lastly, I believe that emotional intimacy is a key characteristic in a relationship that I value. This is important because at the end of the day, we should be able to have a deep intimate conversation, this shows our connection, value and loyalty to one another. This is also important because we have to be respectful of our partners boundaries and also show that we are dedicated to one
another. There are a few characteristics that would be a ‘dealbreaker’ for me, such as inability to uphold a conversation. If my partner were unable to keep up conversation, I would get bored with them and possibly lose interest because it may seem as though we don’t have anything in common. Another deal breaker is when a partner attempts to force or pressure me into doing something I am uncomfortable doing, such as kissing them. This is a deal breaker because I do not want to be forced to do anything, I want to make my own choice to do it. Another deal breaker is when they are unable to communicate effectively with me. Such as being too aggressive or passive when communicating with me. This is important because I need to know how they feel, what they need from me, or what they may want from me. I believe that open communication is key in a healthy relationship because it allows for both partners to express their opinions and or feelings to one another without being judged. This is essential because a relationship won’t be healthy if you can’t tell your partner how you feel or issues you may be having. For example, if one partner were feeling as though the other person wasn’t showing them as much attention as they need, if they partner is able to openly express how they feel the other person could possibly change what they are doing and show their partner more attention. Open communication also allows for disagreements in a relationship, but yet it allows the partners to work together to reach a solution that can work for each partner.
such as abstinence. In addition to this, she has informed me of things that should and shouldn’t be done in a relationship. Therefore, my mother and my religious background have influenced me when it comes to my relationship boundaries. There are many characteristics I value in a relationship, with the first being honesty.
I feel as though I am unable to have a true relationship without honesty. If I am unable to trust my partner then I believe my relationship is bound for failure. Another characteristic I value in a relationship is respect. In a relationship my partner and I must have respect for one another and also our beliefs. I feel as though if there is no respect for my partner and their beliefs, then it is just a one way relationship because one of us may not truly care for that other person. Respect also ties into another characteristic I value in a relationship, which is shared power. This is important because I have hopes, dreams, and goals and I need someone who supports me as I plan to do the same for them. I also believe physical affection is a characteristic that I value in a relationship. In each relationship physical affection should be present because it just shows our love for one another through our actions. Although I believe physical affection is important, I believe that it is important for the each of us to ask before making a move because it can make the other person uncomfortable if they do not ask! Lastly, I believe that emotional intimacy is a key characteristic in a relationship that I value. This is important because at the end of the day, we should be able to have a deep intimate conversation, this shows our connection, value and loyalty to one another. This is also important because we have to be respectful of our partners boundaries and also show that we are dedicated to one
another. There are a few characteristics that would be a ‘dealbreaker’ for me, such as inability to uphold a conversation. If my partner were unable to keep up conversation, I would get bored with them and possibly lose interest because it may seem as though we don’t have anything in common. Another deal breaker is when a partner attempts to force or pressure me into doing something I am uncomfortable doing, such as kissing them. This is a deal breaker because I do not want to be forced to do anything, I want to make my own choice to do it. Another deal breaker is when they are unable to communicate effectively with me. Such as being too aggressive or passive when communicating with me. This is important because I need to know how they feel, what they need from me, or what they may want from me. I believe that open communication is key in a healthy relationship because it allows for both partners to express their opinions and or feelings to one another without being judged. This is essential because a relationship won’t be healthy if you can’t tell your partner how you feel or issues you may be having. For example, if one partner were feeling as though the other person wasn’t showing them as much attention as they need, if they partner is able to openly express how they feel the other person could possibly change what they are doing and show their partner more attention. Open communication also allows for disagreements in a relationship, but yet it allows the partners to work together to reach a solution that can work for each partner.