Brrene Brown Reflection

There are no prerequisites for love and belonging, we are deserving of love and belonging simply because we exist, we start out in life as hole beings. This is one of the many amazing ideas found in Brene Browns work. But this was such foreign idea to my way of being and of relating to the world that I had no a-ha moment when I encountered it. Only after repeated readings and listenings did the clouds disperse. Theoretically I recognized their truth, but at some level I felt this truth did not include me.

If we believe we deserve happiness, why do we struggle, why do we brake? Why are we not constant sources of love and warmth? The Power of vulnerability addresses such topics.

Brene Brown is a contemporary researcher, recordings of her
In her studies she came across people that were more resilient to shame and enjoyed life more, she defined them as the wholehearted people and looked for the traits that differentiate their actions, that set them apart.

I was very attracted to the idea that I can have access to knowledge about what happy, wholehearted do differently. My first approach logic was that if I know what to do, I can apply it. That may be a good starting point, Brene Brown does indeed list 10 guidepost for wholehearted living. But, she also specifies in the beginning of this audio book that “how to” does not work, annealing that if “how to” worked we wouldn’t be struggling because we would all know what to do.

Therefore more important is gaining the understanding on why we struggle, why someone like myself would find it difficult to feel that she is worthy of love and belonging. The short answer is because we learn shame. We learn shame from our family, the way we are brought up, because of the societies we live in. Brene Brown talks about American Culture, I live in Romanian Culture, her insights are universally relevant though. Contemporaneous culture is one of scarcity, she says, the culture of “not enough”, inclined to shame its members on various