Cause of Divorce

Marriage is supposed to be a sacred and beautiful union. In present day America, marriages are not lasting as long as they use to. Marriage is not the same anymore. It is like people forgot what it takes to be married and the true meaning of the union. Statistics show that the main causes of failing marriages are infidelity, high expectations, and lack of communication. Infidelity often seems to be normal in many relationships. It is probably the single most damaging cause that leads to divorce. Infidelity is also a problem most couples would face. Years ago when a spouse was cheated on, most likely they would have stayed together because getting a divorce was illegal. Over the years it has become easier and easier for couples to become separated and then divorced because of law changes. The betrayal and emotional pain you feel once you learned your spouse had an affair is what often leads to divorce. High expectations often lead to disappointment. Men and women both make a lot of assumptions when it comes to marriage. Women are taught by society that men want sex, that men think about sex and that sex is just second nature to men. According to society, if you marry a man you can expect that man to want sex with you. If a man lacks a desire of sex the woman’s expectation of her husband’s sexual performance is lacking. Nine times out of ten if a husband or wife cheats it is a result of a problem in the relationship. The lack of communication is a common problem in daily life. Unfortunately there are problems that avoid being talked about between couples. For example, growing up I would always see either my mother or father at home, rarely both. My mother worked all day and my father worked nights. The difference in work schedules caused issues. If a topic was to be discussed it seemed as though it wasn’t enough time to address it therefore it was not address. My parents did not have the time to often exchange ideas with each other so there was not a confidence for trying to solve their problems. Marriage is not an easy journey. It takes a lot of love, patience, commitment, and communication. Beat statistics. Show them you can make your marriage work. Let’s keep marriage sacred and beautiful.