In different aspects of the novel, each of the major characters battles with their inability to discover their true identity and affiliate their Chinese culture with their American surroundings. Being born and raised in America, the daughters of the novel can better identify and feel adequate or comfortable in a contemporary American society, even though they have been raised in predominantly Chinese households. For the majority of their lives the daughters have tried to mask their Chinese heritage, embarrassed of their mother’s traditions and conservative attitudes. For example, Lena St. Clair said, “I used to push my eyes in on the sides to make them rounder. Or I’d open them very wide until I could see the white parts,” (Tan 104) because her eyes were one of the Chinese characteristics she had inherited from her mother. Similarly, Jing-Mei also
Marte 2 feels largely out of touch with her Chinese mother and identity. At the beginning of the novel Jing-Mei says:
What will I say? What can I tell them about my mother? I don't know anything. . . .” The aunties are looking at me as if I had become crazy right before their eyes. . . . And then it occurs to me. They are