Confronting Without Offending: Analysis

Pegues provides practical tools and clarity along with scripture to underscore the importance of conflict resolution, and how best to resolve conflict that promotes growth and harmony in the book, Confronting Without Offending. The author notes that the quality of one’s communication is the core of all human interaction, and one must keep the communication door open to resolve conflict in a healthy manner. Therefore, confrontation gives the participants the opportunity to communicate effectively to gain an understanding (Jit, Sharma, & Kawatra, 2016). The author encourages the reader to engage in confrontation to resolve issues constructively as oppose to destructive methods such as retaliation that inflicts punishment on the offender.
As this profile will offer the reader clues in understanding their own temperament style and how they compare with the conflict management styles. Additionally, Pegues concludes with examples of family, marketplace and social interaction offering resolution guidelines for resolving each respective conflict by using effective communication to close the breach. Admittingly, Pegues admonishes that even with practicing all the strategies, if resolution is not realized, it does not mean one has failed, but by one being obedient to the mandate of reconciliation, the seed is planted by trusting God to restore the relationship (
Based on my need to make sure a task is perfect or that my family members appear to be perfect. These unrealistic expectations are maladaptive, leaving myself and family overly critical when they fall short of achieving the high standards I have set for them and myself (Moate,Gnilka,West & Bruns, 2016). Therefore, I will execute immediately steps to relinquish control, giving my family members the ability to chart their own goals and reap the consequences of their actions without intervention from me. My high expectation has caused interpersonal conflict and resentment in my sons as they feel that they are living my dream and not pursuing their own. By the same token, resentment is felt on my behalf, feeling that I have sacrificed, to give them a great life. Therefore, the first measurable step is to first trust God, knowing that he has a plan for their lives. This step will entail sharpening my listening skills to create an environment where my Sons can be honest about their feelings, even when I don’t agree with them, trusting, that they will come to the right decision based on God’s purpose for their