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When I first heard that George W. Bush had not one but two shoes thrown at him by an Iraqi journalist in Baghdad, I laughed quite heartily. That was before I realized the gravity of insults involving footwear in Middle Eastern countries. (Then I was still laughing, but with a bit of wide-eyed astonishment.)
In an increasingly globalized world, there seem to be more opportunities for gestures and intentions to be lost in translation. Every culture has its taboos and totems, but foreigners are not always informed of the norm. What’s considered an insult in one country may be the greatest praise in another. Like the attitude toward shoes (and shoe throwing), the giving and accepting of compliments is culture-specific and can be confusing.
Asia and Persia
In most Asian cultures, the group is valued over the individual and compliments are meted out with discretion. So perhaps it’s not a surprise that compliments rarely begin with the phrases “I like” or “I love.” Compliments are made on performance and ability (“How well you speak Japanese!”) rather than appearance (“You have a nice smile”). Still, flattered persons beware! Humility is a virtue in countries like China, Japan, and Korea, and to accept a compliment is to place yourself above the group. Much better to reject or deflect the compliment back on the person who gave it to you, putting everyone on the same level. A similar situation occurs in Iran, where shekasteh-nafsi (modesty or self-effacement) is an important part of the social and religious fabric.
Africa
You wouldn’t ask for the shirt off a stranger’s back in America, but in parts of West Africa, asking for something shows you admire it, and such a comment might make someone’s day. You also probably wouldn’t ask a friend if she’s gained weight (unless you’re looking to turn her into an enemy), but in an area of the world where food is often scarce, carrying some extra poundage implies health, wealth, fertility, and is considered one of the greatest
In an increasingly globalized world, there seem to be more opportunities for gestures and intentions to be lost in translation. Every culture has its taboos and totems, but foreigners are not always informed of the norm. What’s considered an insult in one country may be the greatest praise in another. Like the attitude toward shoes (and shoe throwing), the giving and accepting of compliments is culture-specific and can be confusing.
Asia and Persia
In most Asian cultures, the group is valued over the individual and compliments are meted out with discretion. So perhaps it’s not a surprise that compliments rarely begin with the phrases “I like” or “I love.” Compliments are made on performance and ability (“How well you speak Japanese!”) rather than appearance (“You have a nice smile”). Still, flattered persons beware! Humility is a virtue in countries like China, Japan, and Korea, and to accept a compliment is to place yourself above the group. Much better to reject or deflect the compliment back on the person who gave it to you, putting everyone on the same level. A similar situation occurs in Iran, where shekasteh-nafsi (modesty or self-effacement) is an important part of the social and religious fabric.
Africa
You wouldn’t ask for the shirt off a stranger’s back in America, but in parts of West Africa, asking for something shows you admire it, and such a comment might make someone’s day. You also probably wouldn’t ask a friend if she’s gained weight (unless you’re looking to turn her into an enemy), but in an area of the world where food is often scarce, carrying some extra poundage implies health, wealth, fertility, and is considered one of the greatest