your own words. Lastly, responding to the message with an answer, no matter if it’s for learning something, personal, enjoyment or even employment is basically the same for all, it is important to have active listening to skills. As we respond, there is an answer and feedback given (DeVito 2016) when developing listens sills.
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Do you or does someone you know ever send “solution messages” when attempting to communicate your understanding?
Yes, I do have that special someone who has helped me through many academic problems. I am fortunate to have a wonderful man in my life, who is my husband and he is an excellent communicator. He processes information quickly, while encodes and decodes information. Here a little background, when I got serious with my husband who was my then fiancé I told him about my learning disability. I was very nervous about telling him about my secret I had kept my entire life. I was more embarrassed about how he would take the news, than the learning disability. My husband embraced me and said if there anything I can do to help I will. Wow, I felt like the luckiest lady ever, how did I get so lucky? My husband has helped me with many things. I’ve always been attracted to knowledgeable people. Most of my friends are college graduates. I guess because I had such a horrible experience in school, because of my learning disability, I was by myself most of the time. Not wanting anyone to see firsthand the problems I had. My mind wanders a lot. I am a very distracted person, and I always have been. That’s why I choose distraction a: physical and mental and lack of appropriate focus that is me in a nutshell. My husband has been my biggest supporter telling me I can do anything I put my mind. He is my cheerleader, my confidant, my friend, and my critic. I can take constructive criticism; I do not get mad I learn from it. I try to turn everything into a learning experience it may take a couple of tumbles get back up and keep going. I’m like that watch that just won’t quit, it takes a licking but keeps on ticking. I sometimes tell my husband he should have been a teacher. Because he is so patient and can explain anything in terms you can grasp, and it's broken down for you, whereas before I could not get heads or tails out of it. Yes, this impacts my
communication skills in a positive way. My husband is a firm believer in doing the best job you can with what you are capable of doing for yourself. John’s say he accredit his way of breaking things down to the nuns who taught him in Catholic school. So yes the way a husband communicates with me has most definitely helped in my areas in my life.
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Active Listening and Reflective Responses:
My response to President-elect Trump’s picks for the top congressional seat before listening to the names, was wow he’s picking his cabinet, then came the name and pictures of the men. My first impression was not a good one; they looked like they were racist candidates. I know that we should not judge a book by its cover, so I wanted to look at this with an open mind. Because on election night when President-elect won, he said that he wanted to be the President for the people who did not vote for him as well as the people who did. I thought maybe he would be a man of his word. Generally speaking, I actively listen to what President-elect Trump had to about why he made this choice in choosing these candidates’ (mit.edu 2010).
Active Listening
While reading this story, I’m using my useful listen skills which are my verbalizing my opinions, while trying to maintain my nonverbal communication, such as facial expression and nodding of my head in disbelief of the candidates’ are saying.
Adopts the speaker's point of view Another key point, to realize is that President-elect Trump has chosen these candidates, because of their experience prior to the election. Let’s start with Michael Flynn, who was a former military communication person for the Obama administration. Who was let go for racial comments made in 2014, has he changed his opinion of other cultures, or is he that same man he was in 2014? I am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt I could try to understand his perspective if he gives a logical one. To put it differently, here another one of President-elect’s Trumps pick Jeff Sessions from the District of Alabama. Using my listen skills and watching how he presents himself seems to me he is a racist as well. But I can also give him the benefit of the doubt, but his body language says something else. The last pick
Clarifies the speaker's thoughts and feelings I’m really trying to give President-elect Trump a chance, but I’m looking at his posture, and his communication signals it’s pretty hard to be optimistic. President-elect Trump uses his channels as he communicates with you. His facial\, body, and eye contact tells its own messaged. I guess it depends on if President- elect to listen to his Vice President- elect Mike Pence.
Reflective Response
Under a Presidency, President-elect Trump says some of his decision makings was due to his campaign promises. That seems to puzzle me, in other words, his picking a thus cabinet because of their beliefs. Making good on campaign promises is one thing, but to put people in there, who is known to be racist is another. Does this mean read between the lines or will he contradict his self we the President-elect says he is for all the people?
Reflect the speaker's thoughts and feelings
President-elect Trump seems to believe his what he is saying to the American people. He believes he will be one of the best President ever. Let hope he is sincere about his action for the United States of America sake.
Respond rather than lead the conversation Reflective vs. Directive Responses I have listened to President –elect Trump, and I’m trying to see the sincerity in his words. But it’s hard because every time you say, well let’s give him a chance he say’s more out rangiest ridiculous things. We have serious issues facing our country, and we need someone who can be serious, a good decision maker, and most of all put their own feeling aside and do what is right for the country. Are these choice moral, suitable and worthy of the billions of lives that they will affect? In my opinion, President-elect should take a page from President Obama’s playbook, and choose people from both sides of the aisles. In the end, I hope President-elect Trumps’ pick are productive for the United States of America.
REFERENCES
DeVito, J. (2014) The Interpersonal Communication Book 14 Ed. Phoenix Color/ Hagerstown http://experience.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/2016/11/17/jeff-sessions-leading-candidate-trump-attorney-general-choice/94043556/ https://ocw.mit.edu/courses/comparative-media-studies-writing/21w-732-science-writing-and-new-media-fall-2010/readings/MIT21W_732F10_listening.pdf