Discussion Board Posting Marriage and Family Therapy
The question I chose to critique for week ones discussion board question is question number two.
Identify and describe which stage from the “Stage Model” identified within chapter two, that your own family is currently involved. What are the benefits and deficits connected to this stage?
One of the stages that our family is dealing with is the “Becoming an Adult stage”. According to the text by Herbert Goldenberg and Irene Goldenberg (2008), when a child becomes an adult and leave home they usually stay connected to the family. My daughter will be turning 20 January 18, 2012 and she still lives at home. She is a student at the local community college and she is also working. Having her at home during her educational endeavors is good and bad. I feel it is good in that we know where she is every night and that we feel she is in the safety of her own home. Also knowing that she is not at some university partying is very satisfying. I also feel by her being at home allows her to focusing on her school work. On the other hand, she is not living independently allowing her to make her own decisions. She needs to live independently in order for her to make it in society.
This in essence brings us to the coping with “Adolescent Stage”. Although she is about to turn 20, she still has the mentality of a teenager. The text states: during this stage the family unit as a whole faces new challenges, particularly with autonomy and new found independence (Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2008). The challenges we face with her is allowing her to make her own decisions as a young adult but also maintain parental authority in our home. This situation becomes difficult because now that she is older rules have changed. We have to allow her to grow into adulthood yet maintain the rules and regulations of the house (Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2008). For example, now that she is older she wants to go out and hang out with her friends later. She wants to be able to come in to the
Identify and describe which stage from the “Stage Model” identified within chapter two, that your own family is currently involved. What are the benefits and deficits connected to this stage?
One of the stages that our family is dealing with is the “Becoming an Adult stage”. According to the text by Herbert Goldenberg and Irene Goldenberg (2008), when a child becomes an adult and leave home they usually stay connected to the family. My daughter will be turning 20 January 18, 2012 and she still lives at home. She is a student at the local community college and she is also working. Having her at home during her educational endeavors is good and bad. I feel it is good in that we know where she is every night and that we feel she is in the safety of her own home. Also knowing that she is not at some university partying is very satisfying. I also feel by her being at home allows her to focusing on her school work. On the other hand, she is not living independently allowing her to make her own decisions. She needs to live independently in order for her to make it in society.
This in essence brings us to the coping with “Adolescent Stage”. Although she is about to turn 20, she still has the mentality of a teenager. The text states: during this stage the family unit as a whole faces new challenges, particularly with autonomy and new found independence (Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2008). The challenges we face with her is allowing her to make her own decisions as a young adult but also maintain parental authority in our home. This situation becomes difficult because now that she is older rules have changed. We have to allow her to grow into adulthood yet maintain the rules and regulations of the house (Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2008). For example, now that she is older she wants to go out and hang out with her friends later. She wants to be able to come in to the
References: Goldenberg, I., & Goldenberg, H. (2008). Family therapy: An overview (7th ed.). Pacific Grove, CA: Brooks/Cole. Word count 764