Dlp Reflective Essay
TRANSFORMATIONAL LEADERSHIP
NLP AS AN APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY
COURSE TUTOR: HAZEL BAINBRIDGE
REFELCTIVE ESSAY : META MIRRORS WRITTEN BY : CAROL PARRY, APRIL 2009
During this reflective essay I will aim to reflect upon my experience of guiding a fellow student through an exercise using the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique and to discuss and explore my learning from the experience, and applying NLP principles within this context.
The exercise was undertaken in groups of 3 for which I assumed the role of Practitioner, Wil was the client and our Observer, Bharti. The exercise started with Bharti finding a suitable position from which she could clearly observe the dialogue and interaction between Wil and I, without being obtrusive and beyond …show more content…
our immediate line of vision. I firstly invited Wil to recall a communication or situation with another individual which
“could have gone better” ie, it was not a very emotional experience or one of his worst memories but one in which he was interested enough in his relationship with this person that he wanted to explore this particular communication further.
To start the process I invited Wil to find the space from which he would take ‘First Position’.
The terms ‘first’, ‘second’ and ‘third’ positions have been developed by John Grinder and Judith De Lozier in recent works and are fundamental to understanding the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique. They defined each position in the following way: First position is from your own point of view, in a completely associated way and without considering anyone else’s perspective. Second position is when you consider how a situation looks, feels and sounds from another person’s point of view. Third position is seeing the world from an outside point of view. This is the experience of looking at the situation as a totally independent observer. This is defined as being different form being disassociated, as the person must be observing the situation from a strong and resourceful state. They remind us that all three positions are equally important; this skill is in being to move between them …show more content…
freely.
Wil established his First position space and arranged his seat accordingly. I asked him to visualise where the other person would be in relation to his position. I asked if the person would be standing, sitting or otherwise and Wil responded by telling me that they would be sitting. A chair was then put into this place at the orientation which Wil had envisaged. This is an important part of the Meta Mirror exercise which allows the Client to fully anchor their ‘perceptual position’. This involves the client making arrangements to anchor the positions in clearly separate and defined spaces. The NLP term for this process is called “Spatial Anchors”. This could vary from being just a few feet away from each other to being much further apart such as in a different room of a building. This is decided by the Client in terms of what makes sense for them in the interaction between the different Perceptual Positions.
Once Wil had taken his place in 1st position I asked him to recall the communication with that person and what he was experiencing.
I asked him to explore what he was feeling, hearing and seeing whilst recalling the experience. This process allowed Wil to recall the experience in all sensory systems and to be fully associated in Position 1. I aimed to ensure that my questions were ‘clean’ and not leading, ie, without imposing any of my ‘projections’. I paid close attention to Wil’s responses in order to identify his preferred representational system, ie, Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic - ‘VAK’. Most people will intersperse their dialogue with all types of VAK references however by closely observing other signals, such as their physiology, it is possible to identify which they use
most.
I observed that Wil used his hands quite a lot to describe situations and that his breathing was fairly quick as was his speed of speech. I recognised that Wil’s preferred representation system was ‘visual’ and this then enabled me to match my language, adjust my own physiology, rate of breathing and speech which helped develop rapport between us.. In NLP terms, this is known as ‘mirroring’ and is an important element of developing rapport.
NLP AS AN APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY
COURSE TUTOR: HAZEL BAINBRIDGE
REFELCTIVE ESSAY : META MIRRORS WRITTEN BY : CAROL PARRY, APRIL 2009
During this reflective essay I will aim to reflect upon my experience of guiding a fellow student through an exercise using the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique and to discuss and explore my learning from the experience, and applying NLP principles within this context.
The exercise was undertaken in groups of 3 for which I assumed the role of Practitioner, Wil was the client and our Observer, Bharti. The exercise started with Bharti finding a suitable position from which she could clearly observe the dialogue and interaction between Wil and I, without being obtrusive and beyond …show more content…
our immediate line of vision. I firstly invited Wil to recall a communication or situation with another individual which
“could have gone better” ie, it was not a very emotional experience or one of his worst memories but one in which he was interested enough in his relationship with this person that he wanted to explore this particular communication further.
To start the process I invited Wil to find the space from which he would take ‘First Position’.
The terms ‘first’, ‘second’ and ‘third’ positions have been developed by John Grinder and Judith De Lozier in recent works and are fundamental to understanding the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique. They defined each position in the following way: First position is from your own point of view, in a completely associated way and without considering anyone else’s perspective. Second position is when you consider how a situation looks, feels and sounds from another person’s point of view. Third position is seeing the world from an outside point of view. This is the experience of looking at the situation as a totally independent observer. This is defined as being different form being disassociated, as the person must be observing the situation from a strong and resourceful state. They remind us that all three positions are equally important; this skill is in being to move between them …show more content…
freely.
Wil established his First position space and arranged his seat accordingly. I asked him to visualise where the other person would be in relation to his position. I asked if the person would be standing, sitting or otherwise and Wil responded by telling me that they would be sitting. A chair was then put into this place at the orientation which Wil had envisaged. This is an important part of the Meta Mirror exercise which allows the Client to fully anchor their ‘perceptual position’. This involves the client making arrangements to anchor the positions in clearly separate and defined spaces. The NLP term for this process is called “Spatial Anchors”. This could vary from being just a few feet away from each other to being much further apart such as in a different room of a building. This is decided by the Client in terms of what makes sense for them in the interaction between the different Perceptual Positions.
Once Wil had taken his place in 1st position I asked him to recall the communication with that person and what he was experiencing.
I asked him to explore what he was feeling, hearing and seeing whilst recalling the experience. This process allowed Wil to recall the experience in all sensory systems and to be fully associated in Position 1. I aimed to ensure that my questions were ‘clean’ and not leading, ie, without imposing any of my ‘projections’. I paid close attention to Wil’s responses in order to identify his preferred representational system, ie, Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic - ‘VAK’. Most people will intersperse their dialogue with all types of VAK references however by closely observing other signals, such as their physiology, it is possible to identify which they use
most.
I observed that Wil used his hands quite a lot to describe situations and that his breathing was fairly quick as was his speed of speech. I recognised that Wil’s preferred representation system was ‘visual’ and this then enabled me to match my language, adjust my own physiology, rate of breathing and speech which helped develop rapport between us.. In NLP terms, this is known as ‘mirroring’ and is an important element of developing rapport.