A Father’s Affection Greatly Affects His Son’s Personality Development
From the moment we are born we are like empty cups. We have no personality, we have no idea in life. We have no identity. It is often the people around us and didactics that make us who we are. Early in life we are shaped by our parents, the greatest makers of our identity. Our mothers and fathers affect us more than any other person. The way we communicate and see life may all or partly be influenced by them.
Both of them affect our personality, both in different ways.
Yet recent studies suggest that the father more or less has the same or greater impact on a child’s development than a mother. This has happen so because children and young adults are likely to pay more attention to whichever parent they perceive to have higher interpersonal power or prestige. So if a child perceives his father as having higher prestige, he may be more influential in his life than the child's mother.
So how does a Father affect his children? Especially his son? Based on my experience and scientific articles that I’ve read these are the possible ways on how a father can affect his son:
First, the father inspires his son to be independent and self supporting. Early in life when I was growing up. My father rarely helps me on the things that I do. He would tell me the basics, and would only check if I am doing well. I remember him saying, “diskartehan mo yan.” Or “edi subukan mo.” When I am problematic and hopeless in what I am doing. Now that I’ve grown a lot, this was the only time that I realized that this actions of his made me an independent man. I grew trusting my abilities. Knowing that I can do anything if I would think and give my heart into it.
Then, a father’s acceptance or treatment to his son determines the boy’s self-esteem infront of other people.