The initial consultation
Miss G - first child in a family of 3 girls, 1 boy (born later) where she recalled her parents were not so close (arguing regularly). She always felt her father was disappointed that she turned out not to be the boy he so wanted, and he was often ready to remind her. She had reasonable relations with her mother, but she had been ill for a while and died when Miss G was 15, making her teenage years difficult. Her father subsequently introduced his then secretary into the household as their ‘new’ mother and moved out against her father’s wishes. She entered into a relationship with a man who was somewhat older than her, got married (her father refused to attend the wedding) and had two children. Her husband later left her for another woman. Although she got on well with her siblings, she felt outside the family unit and has let go of these attachments slightly over the years.
Being shy, a redhead and of slight appearance, she was bullied at school and did not achieve anything outstanding academically. Since her husband left, she worked in various situations (mainly shopwork) these never lasted long as when she asked to perform duties that she felt were beyond her (using a till/computer), she admitted to feeling trapped due to her lack of skills and rather than be ‘found out’ would react in a defensive way and quit the job.
Her two children (girl/boy) had both got partners but their marriages had been bumpy. Her son had married but walked away from his wife after a year, met another woman with whom he had had 3 children, only to move on again. She blames herself in part for not having a male influence in the house during her son’s formative years. In the past she has had a few liaisons but nothing has come of them as she is so