Jerry Spinelli’s Crash is a book about change. The main character, Crash (his real name is John Coogan but everyone calls him Crash) changes from a bully to a nice person. Crash was under influence from a bully named Mike Deluca. Another character, Penn Webb, helps him turn into a nice person. The theme of this book is do not judge a book by its cover.…
‘if your parents frequently degraded or devalued you, especially if they implied you were never good enough, you’re likely to grow up feeling a deep seated sense of inadequacy and failure’. (Koenig, 2007, p. 88)…
In Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, from “Two Kinds” and in Bissinger’s Friday Night Lights, the outcome of parents expectations of their children is perfectly portrayed. When a child is pressured to live up to their parents expectations, they become stressed. In most cases, this leads to failure because the child feels as if they will never be able to please the parent. In other cases it leads to the child cracking under pressure and being too anxious to complete the task at hand, or the child might use the stress to motivate them and succeed. The problem is that the last outcome is very seldom, but parents always think that that’s what will happen.…
To begin with parental expectations is a relevant issue in society, especially to teenagers. When parents harp on their children about getting good grades, getting a good job or even succeeding in sporting events it affects the child. The child starts to become discouraged when the outcome is less than the parents expectations and the more discouraged the child becomes the more serious the issue could become. In the book ‘Looking for Alibrandi’ Johns dad expects a lot from him, he expects him to do extremely well with his schooling. He also wishes for him to study Law after school. John starts becoming depressed as a result of his dad’s expectations. John says “Its not the words that come out of his mouth, it’s the looks, Josie. The…
The good intentions of the parents result in an awkward distance between them and their children. In “Warren Pryor,” the parents “marveled how [Warren] [wears] a milk-white shirt on work days” as this not something a farmers working on the fields would wear. His privilege to wear clean shirts and jeans on Sunday makes them believe he is different socio-economically. To think for them to be close again would just be awkward. Similarly, in “University,” the parents claim to the children that” [they] are changed, too good for [the parents] now,” showing belief in that they do not fit in with their children anymore. Since the parents believe their kids are too good them, they do not think they should anymore. In both stories, close families of parents and children grow distant from each other because of a barrier of education and social status. It can already be seen that contrary to popular belief, education does not necessarily bring happiness. The protagonist in “Warren Pryor is described as “hard and serious” (12-13) because he feels “like a young bear trapped in a cage” unable to do what he desires. He felt as if he owed it to his parents to become what his parents want him to become. In “University,” the parents are unsatisfied as “something they wished for (has)…
Wanting to protect one’s children, and wanting to see one’s children succeed are perfectly normal emotions for a parent to have. However, at some point, parents need to realize that while overly protecting one’s children from life experiences may help them in the short term, it prevents children from developing into responsible young adults. In “A Nation of Wimps,” by Hara Estroff Marano, we are shown how parents try to push their children to succeed, often for their own satisfaction rather than for the children. Although parents may have the best intentions, overly protecting their children from life experiences often put children at a huge disadvantage.…
The way that someone is brought up has a huge effect on who they grow up to be. If someone is raised by hardworking guardians, that love and care for them unconditionally, then the outcome of the child will most likely be that of a typical hard working kid with goals for their future. Life changing experiences as well as just everyday experiences play a substantial part in determining a person, especially in their younger years from grade school all the way to highschool and college. Facts and real life stories back this claim up. A good kid going down the right path, can easily be convinced to participate in bad behavior simply by peer pressure and the effort to “fit in” with the crowd. This kind of thing is commonly seen in high school. Guardians of someone can do their best to lead their child down the path to success, but at the end of the day it is the kids decision on what they want to…
Parents are wrong to think they contribute so mightily to their child’s personality. This belief, she wrote, was a ‘cultural myth.’ Harris argued that the top-down influence of parents is overwhelmed by the grassroots effect of peer pressure, the blunt force applied each day by friends and schoolmates.(155)…
Parents are “paternalistic” towards their kids in many ways. Parents try to steer kids away from bad sex, drugs, hobbies, friends, and jobs. Parents warn that bad hobbies can lead to bad friends, and that bad drugs and friends can lead to bad sex and poor jobs. Parents warn that bad drugs, sex and jobs can lead to bad health. Parents encourage kids to attend school to encourage good jobs, and parents avoid neighborhoods where kids might meet bad friends (Hanson, 2011).…
This is true because not only do the characters have to worry about growing up and making something of themselves, but they also have to stay alive in their dangerous neighborhood. Responsibility isn’t necessary a separate aspect to student success, but it is an aspect that comes from the both combined. We see responsibility portrayed by three different characters in this film. The three levels are responsibilities are directly proportionate based on the community life and role models which were placed into their lives. Trey, who comes from a good home and support system, takes on more responsibility than others. He demonstrates this by getting job, good grades in school and looking out not only for his friends but those around him. The next level is a moderate level of responsibility, which is displayed by Ricky Baker. Ricky loves football, and the only way he can play is if he makes good grades. This is sometimes hard to do for him because although his mother is supportive, he has a family of his own. Spending most of his time focusing on football and his child he takes on the trait of responsibility of his own life. Last, the lowest level of responsibility is Doughboy. Doughboy often displays reckless behavior and conforms to the outside world because that is all he has. His family is not supportive and he dropped out of high school. He shows minimal levels of responsibility and would rather break the rules than do the right…
Parents can cause serious problems in their children’s lives without intending to do so, a child can be called upon to repair a loss in his or her parent’s life and it effectively has a negative impact on the children. This is a apparent theme in the two stories “Two Kinds,” by Amy Tan and “The Rocking Horse Winner,” by David Lawrence. Whether the aspirations are from the death of a family member, as in “Two Kinds,” or a financial situation as in “The Rocking Horse Winner,” the effects are shown to be too much for a child to handle, causing a feeling of pressure to fill the void. This can rob them of a happy childhood and ruin the relationship with their parents, ultimately causing psychological problems or even death.…
Sager et al. (2010) examined the origins of Fear of Failure (FF) in adolescent adults. They did this by examining how parent socialization and child interaction play a part in the development of FF in a child. Three families with adolescent athletes ages 13-14 were tested. The parents and the athletes were all interviewed separately and individually three times over a period of a month. The first interview was just for background information. The second interview examined the parents’ and athletes’ aspirations, attitudes, and achievement beliefs. The third interview was broken into three parts.…
I was twelve years old enjoying my summer after fifth grade. My two cousins, Blake and Lacy, my aunt 's boyfriend, Chris, and his daughter, Emily, and I hopped in Chris 's old ford truck. All of us kids had been bulldozing down trees in the forest behind the house all day and decided that we wanted to build a tree house. We were headed to town to buy supplies for the tree house. As we were all getting in the truck there was no room in the front for all of us, so Blake and I jumped in the back bed of the truck, not knowing this would be a choice that would change our lives, and would be remembered forever.…
Peer pressure exists for all ages. Three-year-old Robert insists that his mother take him to the store right away and buy him the latest fad toy because his friends have it. When she doesn 't, he has a temper tantrum. Nine-year-old Sarah wears a new shirt to school once, then refuses to wear it again because her friends made fun if it. Jeff, at sixteen, works out three hours a day to have a "perfect" body. When one of his friends at the gym offers him some anabolic steroids, he accepts, sacrificing his health for his image. Meanwhile, Jeff’s forty-year-old father just took out a loan he couldn 't afford to buy a new BMW because most of his neighbors drive luxury cars, and he didn 't want them to think he couldn 't afford one too. No one is immune from peer pressure.…
Many kids wish their parents were not so strict and would let them party and be out late with friends and not have a curfew because other kids do that. As a result parents end up not letting them go and won’t give them freedom so they end up rebelling doing things behind their back. Other parents don’t want to realize that their kids are…