of what really happened, the Friar says, “I married them, and their stol'n marriage day Was Tybalt’s doomsday, whose untimely death. Banished the new-made bridegroom from the city”(Shakespeare Act 5 scene 3). After the Montague and Capulet family find Romeo and Juliet dead in the tomb, the Friar explains all. All of the the letters, lies, secret plans, secret marriage, it all comes to the surface too late for anybody to really do anything.
All the secrets that Romeo and Juliet shared are not the actions of someone who really loves someone else. If it were true, they would not want themselves in a toxic and unhealthy relationship. They would not want them making radical actions that destroy relationships with family, constant lying to those who care, defending someone who kills. Yet they are all actions made by Juliet because she supposedly loved Romeo. Romeo and Juliet are not responsible adults capable of making life altering decisions but they get married in a moment's hesitation. Some people may think that love was greater than lies and they married because they loved each other, their love was what ended the feud. When really looking at the aspects of act 3 and all the play it is obvious lies were far more great and influential than love. R and J had known one another for a couple hours and were both too young and naive to really understand what love really was.
Romeo and Juliet both had strong feelings for each other, but when it comes down to it, their marriage was built on a mountain of lies. They got married in secret, Juliet and the Nurse kept on lying to everyone around them. The whole reason they died was because a lie couldn’t get delivered to Romeo in time. Lies are what bonded them, lies are killed them, and all the lies revealing themselves are what ended the feud. Time and again, Romeo and Juliet make life altering decisions that negatively affect them or their loved ones. They are in a toxic relationship and are blinded by their dreams and fantasies of love; they are not really in love with each other but in love with the idea of being in love. They both were young, and had no idea what a commitment and life altering consequences that would come their way in the future. One huge theme of this play, more than love, maybe even more than hate, was how enormous lies turn into. A little white lie, of some Montagues crashing a Capulet party, turned into something that ended the lives of two children, that is what Shakespeare had written that is so influential in this play.