Marry Or Not To Marry Gregory Summary

Gregory clearly does not say who to marry but who not to marry. He states that no matter how women view marriage, they should always be careful when choosing a spouse. By this they might be able to avoid a failed marriage or an unhappy one. Women should not just mistake a moment of passion with love, and thereby marry a man, such as Lydia’s marriage to Wickham. Gregory believes that the best bond in marriage is love, and if a man loves his wife “his heart and his character will be improved in every respect by his attachment; his manners will become more gentle, and his conversation more agreeable.” (63). When seeing such character in a husband, Gregory means that a wife should than look on how she behaves and advices women to respond to love by saying “If you love him, let me advise you never to discover to him the full extent of your love; no, not although you marry him. That sufficiently shews your preference, which is all he is entitles to know. If he has delicacy, he will ask for no strong proof of your affection for your sake; if he has sense, he will not ask it for his own.” (63-64). He advises women to keep there feelings a secret to receive respect from their husbands. Women should mare not for the societies sake but for their own.(61) They should know that marriage consists of proper
Published in 1792, A Vindication of the Rights of Women, explained on how she disagrees to Gregory. She critics the ideology that women should hide their love from their husbands. She mentioned how wrong she thinks that Gregory has guided woman as to become sexual objects for their men. She mentions that if women have to hide their true feelings, then they will never be able to grow. She was against many of the views that society had in the 18th century on how women should get away from the shadow of their husbands and speak up as they are created equal by