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March 17, 2014
Date with purpose
When it comes to relationships it all starts with one date, but quite sometimes it doesn’t end up so good. When we were kids it was an odyssey to get a kids and the most romantic date were in the mall driven by our parents. Eventually we broke up because we forgot we were dating someone. Pointless relationships can be expected from a pair of eleven-year-olds. But nowadays, thirty-year-olds are just as guilty. Never before have there been so many people dating without knowing what they’re doing or where they’re heading. If you hope to establish lasting love, you must learn to love beyond the feelings. That’s why there different reasons to understand what dating is and to do it with purpose and what age is appropriate for doing it, which in my opinion should be above the 18.
Love is defined by feelings and emotions most of the time. Once I turned on the radio and heard the dj inviting people to call to the station and offer him their definition of love. Caller number one talked about “warm fuzzies”, and caller number two said something awkward about perspiration and nervousness. Call after call, love was defined by feelings and emotions. Some may say “but isn’t there such a thing as love at first sight?” in order to answer this, one has to define love. Most people may think of love as an exhilarating emotion. Love is a decision to do what is best for the other, love each other through acts of kindness and sacrifice. The feelings of “being in love” are exciting, but they should not be confused with love itself. Emotions come and go. If we equate emotions with love, we’ll conclude that when the feelings fade that love has gone away.
When you consider the wrong reasons to date, you might find that the list is endless. Some seek commitment because they fear loneliness; some feel an overwhelming pressure to date or hope to find the intimacy they think everyone is receiving.