1. Make sure all drop off and pick up details are taken care of before you leave the house - This needs to be standard procedure for you and your ex. Details shouldn't be haggled over in front of the kids. The longer the drop off takes, the more anxiety kids will feel. A kiss and hug good bye and the switch is the best way to do it. Having these details taken care of beforehand also prevents any arguing in front of the kids due to last minute changes which inconvenience.
2. Be positive - If your kids are struggling with the idea of being gone, talk to them about how much fun they might have or how they've mentioned missing their other parent. Emphasize this is their time to get to see their other parent. Also, let them know you have things you're going to be doing as well. It's not unusual for kids to feel guilty about leaving a parent to go to the other parent's house. Letting them know you've got things to …show more content…
Keep things pleasant and civil w/your ex in front of the kids - The worst thing you can do is bad mouth your ex-spouse on the way to a drop off and then get in a fight while there. If you know you aren't able to be civil, stay in the car or the house when pick up occurs. Let the kids know you love them, wave and then leave. Remember, the details should have already been worked out so there's no reason to discuss kid business at a drop off. If you are at a place emotionally, where you can say "hi" to your ex and that you hope all of them have a great time that's wonderful. But don't beat yourself up if you're not there