Parents Influence On Self Control

When all the kids sigh and all the teachers slightly grumble, I can pinpoint who has just walked through the door. Some days she goes by queen, other days diva, but I just call her Isabella. Isabella is a third grader that attends Seminole Heights Elementary School. She has a reputation of stealing clay and mats during art time. She has even stolen money from her so called best friend Kelci and when asked why she stole it, her rationale was “she should have been paying attention.” She doesn’t limit her actions to the students, she also disrespects the Instructors art by touching it and even painting her work with-out her permission. I am speaking about a third grader. This is a child that should know better and do better. But yet, she acts nothing like any of her peers in the class. I contend that the Permissive nature of parents ultimately influenced Isabella to lack self-control (Influences on Self Control, pg.353).
352) From the synopsis above it is obvious that she lacks this skill. I believe that she lacks this ability in part because of the Permissive nature of her parents. Usually parents that are permissive focus too much on their kid’s happiness and completely ignore implementing rules and boundaries in the household (Family Relationships, pg. 414). Due to this loose parenting style the child is never forced to internalize any rules, they are never held accountable for their actions, but most importantly, they never fully be able to self-regulate themselves in an efficient manner. By neglecting to direct Isabella to do one thing, but not another, her parents do not give them either the opportunity or the incentive to internalize control (Influences on Self- Control,