Personal Narrative: A Fat Girl Talk

How many times have you been privy to some guy's account of his drunken romp with a fat girl? How many times have you heard something along the lines of 'you know you were really fucked up when you roll over in your bed the next morning and see a fat chick". Well, I have been witness to this conversation too many times and I'm sick of it. I am sick of all the negative fat girl talk and I'm sure you are also.

Sometimes, it seems if other people are more concerned with my weight than I am. It's as if I'm committing sacrilege to some skinny girl god when I put a piece of food in my mouth. It's sickening that people make stabs at you for nothing more than appearance's sake. Believe me, while there are those who are genuinely concerned about your
health, a lot more are just concerned about how fat you look. Think of how many times you've heard someone say, "I'm so jealous. You eat like a pig and you're still as skinny as a twig." What about their health? I bet they get too much weight loss advice.

All this negative talk can really get a plus-size chick down.
Often it seems as if we're destined to settle in our love and sexual relationships. It's frustrating to attempt to look good in a world that's convinced you're a fat slob. It's maddening to confront the constant discrimination from those close to you as well as strangers. But there has to be some way to overcome
it.

I don't mean to tell you to just learn to love yourself. That's a part of it, but the truth is, that's difficult and it takes time. What I will tell you is to accept yourself where you are and do whatever you can to do so. Here are some tips:

1) Stop avoiding the mirrors.

Learn to look at yourself in the eye. This can be hard, because sometimes all the negative talk overpowers your positive thinking. Do it anyway. Every time you notice something about yourself you don't like, counter it with something positive...like, My face may be chubby, but any girl would die to have such smooth skin.

2) Shop 'til you drop.

If you can't find the clothing you need at the local mall, make it your mission to go online and find clothing that's in fashion. Take some risks. Do not fall into the trap of house gowns and granny clothing (not to mention granny panties!). You're not going to snag that guy you want if you dress like you're in your 70s.

3) Speak up.

Don't let that skinny bitch get you down!
Don't let anybody talk to you any kind of way. You have a right to your self-esteem. Don't let other people take it away from you. If someone insults you, stick it to them--in the nicest way possible, of course.

4) Wink at him.

Take a chance. Flirt. You might get a backlash, but most likely you won't. People aren't that evil. A guy will more likely be nervous or uncomfortable (as many people feel when they're flirted with), but don't expect he'll hurl some obscenity at you. If you put yourself out there enough, you'll get a response. Just don't settle for any Tom, Joe, or Harry. You're better than that.

5) Take care of yourself.

Don't take this article as an endorsement of food addiction. No addiction is healthy. If you're eating because of depression or some other emotion, you may have a destructive relationship with food. You can't enjoy new relationships or life, if you're extremely unhealthy. If your doctor says that you need to lose weight, listen to him. Ask him what you can do to lose it. But do what works for you. Maybe restricting certain foods just won't work. Try eating one less helping. Cut the soda. Go for a 20 minute walk. Do whatever it takes. I want you to enjoy life! Don't let diabetes, heart disease and other illnesses get in your
way!

6) Don't you dare cringe at that word!

Reclaim the word 'fat'. It's just a word and treat it as so. You can use all the euphemisms you like, but you are 'fat'. As soon as you come to terms with the word and accept it as you own---and turn it into something positive--you'll be better off.

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