Personal Narrative: Close Relationships
Close Relationships
One of the closes relationships that I am currently engaging in is with my boyfriend ST. We have been together for almost three years now, and most of the time we are 6000 miles apart. Yes, we are in a long distance relationship, he lives Xuzhou, China, and I go to school here in Seattle. During the span of three years, we have seen some hardships and struggles, and the experiences and memories we share are incalculable. There are times when I am overjoyed and filled with happiness, and other times the distance makes the loneliness so palpable that I am on the verge of giving up. Yet, no matter what happens, he has always been there for me, both physically and emotionally. He has shown me so much love and compassion through his actions and words, especially in moments of sadness and distress. Even though he is not always vocal about how he thinks of me, he offers self-verification and positive illusions that create a satisfying relationship.
One of the ways he supports me is through compliments and affirmations. I like singing and consider it as one of my positive attributes. I have sang and performed in a choir both during elementary school and college. When I first met ST, we went to a Karaoke together. I …show more content…
The affirmation I receive from ST about my singing ability reassures my self-conceptions, and the positive illusions produce greater satisfactions. If ST were to say that I am a horrible singer, the self-verification will longer exist, and causing a cognitive dissonance that may lead to a breakup, or changing my own perceptions to match his. Both will likely decrease the overall quality of the relationship. Moreover, the lack of positive illusions may also have a negative impact on the general satisfaction of the relationship, perhaps to a lesser degree than the lack of self-verification, since those illusions exceed my
One of the closes relationships that I am currently engaging in is with my boyfriend ST. We have been together for almost three years now, and most of the time we are 6000 miles apart. Yes, we are in a long distance relationship, he lives Xuzhou, China, and I go to school here in Seattle. During the span of three years, we have seen some hardships and struggles, and the experiences and memories we share are incalculable. There are times when I am overjoyed and filled with happiness, and other times the distance makes the loneliness so palpable that I am on the verge of giving up. Yet, no matter what happens, he has always been there for me, both physically and emotionally. He has shown me so much love and compassion through his actions and words, especially in moments of sadness and distress. Even though he is not always vocal about how he thinks of me, he offers self-verification and positive illusions that create a satisfying relationship.
One of the ways he supports me is through compliments and affirmations. I like singing and consider it as one of my positive attributes. I have sang and performed in a choir both during elementary school and college. When I first met ST, we went to a Karaoke together. I …show more content…
The affirmation I receive from ST about my singing ability reassures my self-conceptions, and the positive illusions produce greater satisfactions. If ST were to say that I am a horrible singer, the self-verification will longer exist, and causing a cognitive dissonance that may lead to a breakup, or changing my own perceptions to match his. Both will likely decrease the overall quality of the relationship. Moreover, the lack of positive illusions may also have a negative impact on the general satisfaction of the relationship, perhaps to a lesser degree than the lack of self-verification, since those illusions exceed my