When I was younger, I always accepted the words of my parents without any second thought. Maybe I was afraid to protest the authority figures in my life, or maybe I was too afraid to speak for myself. I learned not to question anyone. I became subdued and submissive, I felt my creativity being stifled. Introverted , quiet people were not welcome in this household, and were made into extroverts, whether or not it affected their well-being. Socialization has affected my life in many ways, as it does for every human being on Earth.…
According to this test my communication style under stress consists of avoiding and controlling. From the accompanying table I find that these two less-than-perfect strategies of handling crucial conversations only affect me slightly. When it comes to avoiding, I do not ignore the real issues; however, I sometimes avoid subjects that are not necessary to solving the main conflict. For controlling, I do like to get my point across, but I will not force my ideas and opinions on others nor will I actively encourage people to share their ideas. None of the methods for controlling pertain to me.…
The social-emotional domain is most of interest to me. As Humans we interact pretty much throughout our lives, our emotions often play a large role on how we develop socially and how that ties to our emotions. From birth we gradually start to develop these relationships with the people around us. Over time this process of learning to communicate, share, and interact with others takes many years to develops. We continue to develop these skills into our teenage years, and even as young adults. So with that I do believe that the development in this domain is mostly a continuous one.…
Initially when I meet my client for the first initial session, I would like to keep in mind the purpose for the counseling session, and establish some attainable goals for both myself and the client. Although, as a counselor meeting a client for the first time may be awkward in the beginning (Laureate Education, 2010d).…
When I went in for my appointment with a mental health counselor, all I was given was a name, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). I was not given any specific way to get better, and I slowly realized that if I was going to get better, it would be up to me. I need to be more honest with myself and who I am. After today, this diagnosis became a part of who I was. From here on, I need to focus on becoming the best version of myself. Sometimes it is too much for me to deal with on my own, so I put my worries onto other people. I can’t do that anymore because I lost so many friends from this. Today was a start. Even though this is just a step, I am still moving…
Millions of people suffer from social anxiety and I am one of them. It affects me daily in all social situations. This anxiety constantly makes me fear of what others think of me and fearful of embarrassing situations. Unfortunately, I think of how a situation can go wrong before it even happens. However, to deal with this I put myself into situations I fear. Instead of pondering how each thing can go wrong, I jump right in. For example, I attended the transfer meeting by myself, which may not seem like an accomplishment but it was for me. Quietly, I walked into an unknown social situation with thoughts of, what if I go into the wrong room, what if there are no available seats and what if I have to speak aloud. Nevertheless, I walked through…
There are many influences on emotional behavior like personality, culture, gender, social convention, and more, but one that I have a constant struggle with and try to address, is fear of self-disclosure, which means the fear of revealing information about himself or herself to another and risk unpleasant consequences. I'm one of those people that tries to be honest all the time, but deep down I usually don't disclose really deep personal things about me. It's not that I'm afraid of what people will think because people will always judge. I'm not here to please everyone, just the people I care about. It's that I personally feel vulnerable. I don't want to show vulnerability in front of others. I do disclose personal information about myself…
I used to live my life in fear. With every step I took, I felt like I was disappointing someone, somewhere, whether it be my family or some stranger I saw walking down the halls. My existence was one big failure, and I never really understood why I expected so much of myself.…
I agree with you Jessica on having unrealistic images of yourself and the difference between looking a certain way and feeling a certain way. Cultural identity is a big deal to teenage girls because it projects her identity based on a certain groups that she associates with (Matlin, 2012, p. 124). In high school I was in the group of misfits, that happen to be mainly boys, and we had friends in other groups but we did not fit in anywhere else. Even though I projected an image of not caring about what others thought of me, I still felt I was fat and when I looked in the mirror, I saw myself as fat. I look back now and I was at an ideal weight then but currently I still think and feel I am obese. I am reminded by the doctor during every checkup…
Samantha was my savior and protector till the struggle of social life took over our compact minds. I remember when Samantha and I first met in Kindergarten; I had just back to Fort Hood from Germany and hardly spoke English. I was the middle of the school year, kids had just come back from winter break and everybody knew each other by then but me. My new teacher had seated me next to Samantha and Sam welcomed me warmly. Sam would help me with assignments and talking to other kids and stood up for me against cruel kids when no one else would from kindergarten to third grade. I saw her as not only my best friend, but also my hero. However, Sam became more distant throughout the years and started talking to me less, but I didn't think anything…
I have always been a more reserved person, and as I began high school, I realized that beyond being just quiet or shy, I was dealing with social anxiety. With support from my family and friends, this is something that by acknowledging, I have been able to work towards improving. Being surrounded by a community of students made up of such unique, accepting, and intelligent individuals has also helped me with this. I have been very fortunate to have been a part of such an amazing group of students and teachers during my years as an IB student. While my social anxiety may be something I still struggle with daily, I have learned that it takes nothing away from the smart and kind individual that I have become as I have grown up, and I hope that as I continue into college and into my life, that more people will be able to see such things in…
After my second year in high school, I made a decision that would turn out to be life changing. This decision wasn’t life changing in the way that getting married or going to college would be, but I really learned a lot about myself that summer. What I’m about to tell you is what happened when I switched from Marching Band to Football. I will explain to you why this switch was such a big deal to me and what I learned about myself from it. Switching from Marching Band to Football after my Sophomore year of high school changed the way I saw myself because I found I have a strong enough will to follow my heart despite controversy with others, I have a strong desire to be in control of my life, and I have an aggressive side that had not shown itself before.…
Everyone in life grows up with their own distinct family values and family norms. According to James Henslin, values are the standards by which people define what is desirable or undesirable to them, and norms are the expectations of what is “right,” which develop from our own values. The way people determine what is right or wrong are by the sanctions they receive, which are the expressions of approval or disapproval for what they have done. All societies in the world develop their own expectations for behavior that eventually become part of the shared culture we live in today. Along with our shared culture and own family values and norms, exist what are called folkways and mores. Folkways are norms that are not strictly enforced to everyone.…
The two social norms I decided to violate were, speaking to family and friends in a voice much louder than my regular volume during regular conversation, I took my boyfriend’s spot on the couch, dinner table and the bed, and I told my son he could watch whatever he wanted and observed what it was he liked to watch.…
This is a story about something I learned that changed my life. It’s a phrase that most people just ignore from having heard it so often repeated by motivational speakers who don’t really know what they’re talking about. But I have found this phrase to be true, and this phrase is “Be yourself”.…