Personal Narrative: My Virtual Child Development

My Virtual Child Development
Morgan K. Griffin
Lewis and Clark Community College

My Virtual Child Development

My husband Brett and I, were not able to have children of our own. So we contacted the best adoption agency around us, through this agency we now have two beautiful children. Six year old Joseph Louis and three year old Poppy Jean. Joseph is a “slow to warm up” (Mannis 2014) child and though we are working on ways to improve this we are so blessed to have two healthy children. I know that Joseph is a “slow to warm up baby” because he is very loving and very adventurous but it takes him a little bit of time before he is comfortable, he also will use me as a secure base. Times have been very hard especially with
I think my child and I have a very secure attachment and so does my husband, I think that the program is wrong about our communication because I respond to my child’s cries. I think that program said our communication needed work because in the program at 12-8 the question was “When strangers come to visit, they think Joseph is really cute so they want to hold him. But he starts crying and is inconsolable until the person returns him to me.” And the answer I picked was “Let the person hold Joseph and try to calm him down and if it does not work have them return him and comfort him.” I picked this answer because in real life you are not going to be around the same people every single day, you will meet new ones or there will be some people that you have not seen in a while. For instance, I am going to be moving to North Carolina with my husband 6 weeks after I have my son, I am not going to be able to come home and see my family and friends every single weekend so when we do come home and family wants to see my son he is most likely going to scream and cry but my intentions are too not scare him and make him think I am leaving him. I will be in his eye sight until he can calm down, I just want my son to be able to make the connection that my mom trusts these weird strangers so I should too. If it was a total stranger then no I would not let them hold my child while he screams and searches for me but when it is someone that I trust him with, then I think that it will be okay to let him cry. Also I would not let my child scream and cry for longer than 10 minutes because his father and I should know what his cries mean and anything longer than that it could also be a hunger cry. I think that it all just depends on the situation that you are put in with your