The man in 'Poem' seems to have a split personality. Each of the first three stanzas is made up of four lines - the first three dealing with good things he did and the fourth mentioning a drawback, something bad. For example the third and fourth lines of the first stanza read,
'And he always tucked his daughter up at night And slippered her the one time that she lied.'
Although there are more good than bad things mentioned, the bad is cleverly positioned at the end of the line and this seems to make it overshadow and even cancel out all of the positive actions mentioned. In the context of a eulogy the three positive lines could be what is being said with the last line representing the thoughts of those present at the funeral.
Simon Armitage does not conclude on the life of this man, but finishes the poem with:
'Here's how they rated him when they lookef back; Sometimes he did this, sometimes he did that.'
This lack of conclusion and the continual juxtaposition of contrasting views of the man's life do not form a judgement of him, but ask us, the readers, how it is possible to judge someone when he or she is gone. We form an impression of a man who seems dutiful (from his actions such as 'for his mum he hired a private nurse), yet hot-tempered and domineering (such as 'And once, for laughing, he punched her [his wife] in the face'), Armitage ends it with such ambiguity that we are forced to reconsider our judgements and are left with only a vague impression of him.
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