The world around the girl changes a lot so she feels she will lose anything nice she get, nothing will last forever. She moves a lot, and it separates her from the people and things like her house, room, paintings, even silliest things like toy from childhood she loves. It is annoying to move just once, but she changed many schools and moved in and out country three …show more content…
times. She loses her friends, her grandparents and she never has a permanent home. This experiences of losing people and her belongings causes her to think that anything new or good in her life will just leave her. The girl never welcomes anything new with smile but the fear of losing it. For example, she will purposely distance herself from new friends and run away from them. And then she complains about being lonely.
Being lonely is beginning of problems, she has list of complains that makes her more angry. Why is she short? Why is she dark? Why is she so shy? Why is everybody better than her? Why does she have to change her accent? Why can't she write? Why can't she do anything right? Why is every girl prettier than her? Why is she the only one who has no real friends with whom she can spend time instead texting or talking once in awhile because when she is awake they are asleep? Why does no one in her family understands her? she got bad SAT scores; she failed her driver’s test and the list goes on. Even if she said something wrong she will get depressed over it and complain about it for a week. Instead of trying to help herself she just keep complaining. She just does not love herself or try to help herself.
Instead of trying help herself she cries, gives up;and feels there is no end to this feeling and only sadness will last forever in her life. The girl creates this mindset that nothing good can happen to her. She has to leave everything and everyone she loves and it always going to be that way. She feels that nothing good can happen and feels that life will be as hopeless in the future as it is in the present and as it has been in the past. There is no good change, there is just sadness. She feels that she will always be a failure. She does not feel happiness at all but she smiles just to show that she is trying to be happy. No one was ever going to notice her or her feelings. All she keeps on thinking is how is everyone else is happy and she is not. She just stays in the darkness.
After passing the driver’s test, and talking to her father about her feelings and thoughts, she found happiness. The driver’s test that once caused her to feels bad about herself after passing it, she feels happiness. She worked hard for the test. Winning after hard work gives a really good satisfaction. After that she talks to her father who said that he knows that she was sad and that many things hurt her easily and she gives up easily. He said to her not to fret about the past and if it annoys her so much she should not only look at the bad part of the past but also the good parts. Her father told her to look at everything in both good and bad way. He told her to see what moving gave her instead of what it took from her. The girl feels happy that her father understands her feelings and then she tries to look at the good side of her life. She see that if she had not moved so much she would not have found new friends and lessons about new places and countries. She got to see differences and similarities in schools and cultures she had been to. She found that even if she complains a lot she ends up doing one thing that is she always adapt to new things easily than others. She got to meet new people, though she lost many but they were still there, in her memories, and that day she wished for all of them bags and bags of happiness. She knows that nothing last forever and instead of thinking about losing something she has to seize every moment with the present to find happiness and make sweet memories. She realized that she focused on the negative side so much that she forgot about the positive side of things. She felt that she was the one who had to change not the world around her and find the light inside herself by herself. A change in looking at things is the light for the girl.
Looking at everything with just one side can cause pain even if it is good or bad.
In Siddhartha, Siddhartha in the last chapter talks about looking at the things in unified way. He describes that everything has two parts like samsara and nirvana. One is described bad and good but both are essential and equally important for one to be enlightened. Siddhartha sees at everything as a whole not in parts which makes him enlightened. Similarly, when the girl sees only negatives of her life she feels the sadness and disappointment. But, when she also acknowledges the positive parts of her life she feels true happiness and light. She like Siddhartha looks at her life in an unified way, as a whole and sees every experience, good or bad, balances out and that was the
truth.
Truth is really hard to find if one is ignorant of knowledge and just see the world with one’s own held beliefs. In Plato’s cave allegory, the people believe that the shadows are the reality, the truth but, they are in dark about the reality. But then there is a change and that is when they are let outside of cave and then they become aware of of the reality. They are ignorant to reality, knowledge but they found the light. The girl’s story has parallels with the Plato’s cave allegory because she is ignorant of the positives and is always pessimistic. But when she asked to also focus on the positives she finds the knowledge that not everything is bad and finds light.
Everything is bad, sad and lonely would be the words of the girl before the change but now, she would also say that there is something good in everything too. The girl tries to see the world as a balanced world where everything has its own pro and con. She left the darkness of pessimistic outlook and have better outlook, an outlook in which she acknowledges the good parts not only the bad parts. She does not give up on pessimism but, she is able to find a good thing in every bad she thinks or feels. I mean changing oneself can take some time but a start is a good thing. By the way, the girl in the story is me. I thought about writing about someone else would be good but writing about myself just made me feel better about the new outlook I have. There are times when I still feel a little anxious but, I know cannot value light without darkness. I just feel like I am happy but aware of sadness at the same time. The fear of losing does not get me anymore. It is surprising what a little change in outlook and a good thing in a bad time can to do to one girl, I mean me.