Sociological Perspective Essay

I drew with crayons. In conclusion, my lackluster movement abilities and advanced speech skills, led me to become the ideal campaigner, for my siblings.
Sociological
According to E-notes, a sociological perspective “invites us to look for the connections between the behavior of individual people and the structures of the society in which they live” (E-Notes, 2012). It can be summed up as, how you are affected by society or others in general. Five theories in the sociological perspective that are reflective in my life are boundaries, feedback, attention deficit disorder, separation-anxiety disorders and systematic desensitation.
Boundaries
After my parents got a divorce, there were constantly barriers having to be put up, because their hatred
for each other was unimaginable. Boundaries are the “invisible barriers that surround individuals and subsystems, controlling [the] amount of contact with others” (Daniels, 2015). Whenever my parents spoke to each other it turned into arguing. So, to keep the peace majority of the time they did not speak or they would speak through me and my siblings. This still lingers today, because I have to be thoroughly selective regarding which events I invite certain family members too, since I do not want anyone to feel uncomfortable. An example of the happening was my high school graduation. I had decided not to invite my father, in an attempt to have a stress free day. Nevertheless, he showed up anyway and there might not have been bickering, but as people say “you could cut the tension with a knife.” This affected my advancement, because it forced me to choose between my family and subsequently, always left me feeling an amount of guilt. Thus, I have to offset for my misdeed, by doing something else. This also affects my augmentation, because now especially with my friends, I will put myself on the backburner, so that everyone else can have a good time and be comfortable, even if I am not. I constantly have to compromise. In essence, my childhood need to constantly compromise myself, has led me to always negotiating, even if I prefer not to.
Feedback
In middle school I never felt as if I fit in. When I got to high school though, I began to receive positive feedback from my peers, I even was voted class clown my senior year. Feedback is outlined as “a system’s receipt of information from an outside source about its own performance or behavior” (Daniels, 2015). Starting my freshman year and throughout high school career, people tended to believe that I was funny, so, I continually made jokes, which infuriated my teachers, yet my friends loved it. This affected my progression, because it was a gigantic confidence booster. To go from being awkward in middle school, to being loved in high school, made me feel for the first time that I truly had good friends. Thus, I started to trust a vast amount of people and became immensely unguarded. Overall, the positive feedback I received from my friends, impelled me to be candid with respects to myself.
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity
Attention Deficit Disorder has played a monumental role in my life. When I was in third grade, I was diagnosed with this ailments, which according to Dr. Thomas Brown is: a complex syndrome of impairments in development of the brain’s cognitive management system, or executive functions. The disorder affects one’s ability to organize and get started on tasks, attend to details and avoid excessive distractibility, regulate alertness and processing speed, sustain and, when necessary, shift focus, use short-term working memory and access recall, [as well as] sustain motivation to work. (Brown, 2005)
When I was identified as ADD, it was genuinely hard on my mother who is a special education teacher, nonetheless eventually my parents put me on medication. This influenced my evolution, since, due to the fact that I hated the medicine, I learned to compensate. I compensated by staying organized (making sure I dated and kept up with all of my notebooks) plus, I learned a study method (studying every night). Ergo, the better the grades I received, the further academically secure, I became. Today, the only visible sign of my ADD would be my speech. Since ADD affects your memory, I have a hard time remembering what I long to say and subconsciously feel rushed to say my ideas before I forget them. This affects me, because I tend to have to constantly be patient, especially when meeting unfamiliar people, since occasionally they cannot understand me. All in all, though ADD might seem akin to a burden, nonetheless it has made me a stronger and finer student.
Separation-Anxiety Disorders
Separation- Anxiety has been a constant factor in my life for as long as I can remember.
It is characterized by “developmentally inappropriate and excessive anxiety concerning separation from home or from those to whom the individual is attached.” My separation anxiety is attached to my mother. When asked why I did not enjoys staying overnight at my grandmother's house, while I was growing up, I was apprised that it was because my father snatched me. When I was a little over one years old, my parents got into a fight and my father took me. My mother called everyone she was familiar with, trying to find me, even my grandmother. Then finally, after nearly a week she sent the police to my grandmother's house and that is where I was found. This affected my progression, since before this incident I was never clingy to my mother. However, ever since that experience, if I do not speak or see my mom for a certain amount of time I become nervous or worried. Having to be close to my mother while growing up significantly stunted my growth, because it made me afraid to be lonely or alone in general. Consequently, I was too afraid to undertake normal childhood activities, for instance a sleepaway camp. Over the years, despite my anxiety drastically decreasing, it has not been completely nulled. On the whole, despite separation anxiety being created by an unhappy event and causing many sad consequences, the achievement of beating this disorder, should outweigh all the
negatives.
Systematic desensitization
I have faint memories of a dog attacking my doll when I was extremely young. So, throughout my life I was terrified of dogs, humongous or tiny. Through systematic desensitization which is when you “gradually expose [a] person to [the] thing he/she fears; taught [through] incompatible response” (Daniels, 2015). I was able to get rid of my fear of dogs. When I was fourteen years old, my mom brought me and my siblings a puppy for Christmas. The dog, Heaven, grew slowly so I was in a way able to grow with her. For instance, I used to be slightly nervous whenever I heard a dog bark, but, due to having a dog of my own I became accustomed to the noise. Now when I see dogs, they no longer frighten me, because Heaven extinguished my fear. This affected my chrysalis, because it freed me. Before, Heaven I was always nervous, conversely after losing my fear of dogs, I was able to try different pursuits and face my ever growing list of fears. Heaven showed me that my fears were not so scary. To sum it up, Heaven slowly desensitized me to my fear of dogs.