In the United States there are thousands of babies born every day but how many of them are twins? Twins today are more common than they once were. There is actually a 3 percent chance that if you are pregnant right now you could be having twins.
Twins are something miraculous and special. I have had the pleasure of meeting seven different sets of twins in my life time thus far. Only one set is older than I am while the rest range from juniors in high school to just starting pre-school.
Today, I am going to talk to you about three things. First I am going to discuss the bond that most sets of twins share. Secondly I will address individuality and its importance among twins. Last I will talk about the difference between identical and fraternal twins and how this effects their relationship.
Each of these twin pairs that I have met, had their own unique bond but they did all have one. “The twin bond is important since it’s a relationship that really started in utero,” says Eileen Pearlman, a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist who lectures on multiple birth issues and is the author of Raising Twins: What Parents Want to Know (And What Twins Want to Tell Them). “Even in the womb, there was a lot of working together sharing a very small space.”
Yet it’s not only this preordained creation that makes the twin bond so special; there are other forces at work, too. From a practical point of view, most young twins do everything together from eating and sleeping to bathing and playing. Although done to save time (and a parent’s sanity), this high access to each other has an added bonus—helping to cement a strong intra-twin relationship.
The third factor contributing to the twin bond, Pearlman explains, is that they become each other’s transitional objects—you know, that teddy bear or security blanket that helps to ease the pain when Mommy’s not around. “That teddy bear can also be replaced with a twin,” she says. “If Mommy’s not here but