Stuck Where You Are In Life: Escapism Research
Why You Are Stuck where You Are in Life: Escapism
Before passing away, my grandmother spent 50 years in an abusive relationship with my grandfather. She never got the courage to leave no matter how bad it got. Instead, she would escaped using fiction novels and a TON of movies.
No matter how bad it got, she would forget as she would escape into her own little world.
I love my grandmother, but that's not a life worth living. But you might be doing the same thing my friend.
You never faced your problems in life because you decided to escape to worlds where your problems can't hurt you.
Even when something bad happens, you just self-medicate by using escapism.
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You can't just cut if all off (that's like not eating all day just to lose weight). But you do need to be aware how much time you spend escaping (just how you need to be aware how much food you are stuffing in your mouth each day).
You know what I find is the best way to avoid escapism (and avoid over eating)? Spending time with people you enjoy. We are social creatures, we are wired to connect. And if we don't get that connection, our brains will try everything to fill the void.
And do you know what the opposite of escapism is? Interacting with people.
(Actually, the true opposite of escapism is engaging the world, moving towards your dreams. But 90% of the time that means interacting with people.)
Don't confuse comfort with happiness. Happiness is external. Happiness comes from our relationships. Escapism makes you very comfortable in life, it doesn't bring you happiness.
P.S. Yes, we all need to escape from time to time. But do your work/project for the day before you escape. Put in the time on building a good relationship with someone that day before you medicate yourself. After you see your progress in a month from now, you'll thank
Before passing away, my grandmother spent 50 years in an abusive relationship with my grandfather. She never got the courage to leave no matter how bad it got. Instead, she would escaped using fiction novels and a TON of movies.
No matter how bad it got, she would forget as she would escape into her own little world.
I love my grandmother, but that's not a life worth living. But you might be doing the same thing my friend.
You never faced your problems in life because you decided to escape to worlds where your problems can't hurt you.
Even when something bad happens, you just self-medicate by using escapism.
TV, YouTube, video games, food, anime, manga, browsing the internet, daydreaming, …show more content…
You can't just cut if all off (that's like not eating all day just to lose weight). But you do need to be aware how much time you spend escaping (just how you need to be aware how much food you are stuffing in your mouth each day).
You know what I find is the best way to avoid escapism (and avoid over eating)? Spending time with people you enjoy. We are social creatures, we are wired to connect. And if we don't get that connection, our brains will try everything to fill the void.
And do you know what the opposite of escapism is? Interacting with people.
(Actually, the true opposite of escapism is engaging the world, moving towards your dreams. But 90% of the time that means interacting with people.)
Don't confuse comfort with happiness. Happiness is external. Happiness comes from our relationships. Escapism makes you very comfortable in life, it doesn't bring you happiness.
P.S. Yes, we all need to escape from time to time. But do your work/project for the day before you escape. Put in the time on building a good relationship with someone that day before you medicate yourself. After you see your progress in a month from now, you'll thank