Summary Of Lisa Bonos Men Say They Want Smart Successful Women
Lisa Bonos writes an article called “Men say they want smart, successful women. So why do they women have trouble dating?”, in which she goes on to discuss how will men may say or think they want powerful women, but when it comes down to it chicken out and use the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. Furthermore she conducts an experiment and then explains how men feel pressured to have their lives together before settling down, believing they must have one goal achieved before they can move on to the other (having a relationship). The deep rooted psychological idea is passed down from generation to generation and the men never have a chance to realize where the root of their sexist ideas come from. Lisa goes on to insist that woman must give men who they(the women) believe deserve time, a chance to develop in who they are and in their careers. Overall she finishes her article
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by stating how both men and women need to communicate in order to build a long lasting and firm relationship.
In this article I was overall surprised by the delicacy and patience we are suppose to be giving men.
Throughout the whole article I had an understanding that woman were going to advocated for and be advised to stop chasing men that need to feel superior and secure before they can have a relationship. I find “an explanation in the enduring pressure men feel to be providers” to be stereotypical and feeds into a patriarchy. Men needing to believe they must be the breadwinners in a society wear feminism speaks volumes, and where females make it clear as day they don't want to be thought of as housewives but instead climb corporate ladders and be seen as equals. Consequently it was intriguing to read about the toxicity mentioned in the “7 reasons why Patriarchy is bad (and Feminism is good) for men” be an influence in this writing piece. Lisa mentioning how “studies find that such women often make men feel emasculated or inferior.” Men have such negative thoughts on something such as a successful woman, and instead of celebrating their newfound counterparts success, feel intimidated by
it.
Though lastly the most surprising part of the article for myself was when instead of being told “Don't fit into gender stereotypes, instead find a man who knows your value” women were told to be patient and understanding. While it is justifiable to say that men have these deeply rooted ideas because of what they have been taught of when they were little, woman should not have to turn into feminine helping figures. This is especially true since society already have connotations of woman being too “feminine” and “maternal”. There is a very prominent double standard at the very end of the article, “That was my big advice on relating for women, to have that kind of empathy.” Why should women have to be caring when men would see this as a sign of weakness if expressed by a woman? More the less ridicule them and say they are “too emotional” or insecure. Of course I can't help but try to understand where the author is coming from, at the end of the day only woman can help men comprehend that they don't need to be this masculine macho the world views them as. Ultimately a relationship is all about growing with someone, especially in instances such as these.
by stating how both men and women need to communicate in order to build a long lasting and firm relationship.
In this article I was overall surprised by the delicacy and patience we are suppose to be giving men.
Throughout the whole article I had an understanding that woman were going to advocated for and be advised to stop chasing men that need to feel superior and secure before they can have a relationship. I find “an explanation in the enduring pressure men feel to be providers” to be stereotypical and feeds into a patriarchy. Men needing to believe they must be the breadwinners in a society wear feminism speaks volumes, and where females make it clear as day they don't want to be thought of as housewives but instead climb corporate ladders and be seen as equals. Consequently it was intriguing to read about the toxicity mentioned in the “7 reasons why Patriarchy is bad (and Feminism is good) for men” be an influence in this writing piece. Lisa mentioning how “studies find that such women often make men feel emasculated or inferior.” Men have such negative thoughts on something such as a successful woman, and instead of celebrating their newfound counterparts success, feel intimidated by
it.
Though lastly the most surprising part of the article for myself was when instead of being told “Don't fit into gender stereotypes, instead find a man who knows your value” women were told to be patient and understanding. While it is justifiable to say that men have these deeply rooted ideas because of what they have been taught of when they were little, woman should not have to turn into feminine helping figures. This is especially true since society already have connotations of woman being too “feminine” and “maternal”. There is a very prominent double standard at the very end of the article, “That was my big advice on relating for women, to have that kind of empathy.” Why should women have to be caring when men would see this as a sign of weakness if expressed by a woman? More the less ridicule them and say they are “too emotional” or insecure. Of course I can't help but try to understand where the author is coming from, at the end of the day only woman can help men comprehend that they don't need to be this masculine macho the world views them as. Ultimately a relationship is all about growing with someone, especially in instances such as these.