In The Chief’s Daughter, Chief Onyeka had planned out a life for his daughter, Adaeze, while she was away in London gaining her education. She was never to be married and was to stay home to take care of her father and take over his businesses. The Chief thought her to be most suitable for the position as it was a tradition in their tribe to have the chief’s favorite daughter stay home never to be married, but sending children abroad to learn in the land of the white people was not a custom that their tribe normally accommodated too either. When the children are sent abroad not only are they gaining an education, but they are also surrounded by a number of different customs and traditions that may not apply to their tribes traditional habits.
When children grow older and start to develop their own train of thoughts and are making their own decisions as well as building their own life their parents can’t sit down with them and show them a mapped out plan for what their parents want from them, their parents can give advice and help push them in the right direction, but they can’t make their child’s life for them. They are going to want to build their own life and if you push them to much they aren’t going to want anything to do with you.
Although it may be a normal custom in some tribes for the Chief to be wed his favorite daughter its is frowned upon in many other place, due to the psychological well being of a person’s thought process but also the health issue that may be thrust upon if children were to be made between a father and daughter. This part had the most impact on me. You can only try to understand the love a father has for his daughter, but it is hard to try to understand how that love could even begin to venture into the direction of that type of relationship, but then again growing up learning that the father daughter relationship is a completely different relationship then a relationship