a sense of belonging.
The father son relationship is one which is conceptualised within Gaita’s ‘Romulus, My Father’ as a pivotal strength which ties the two together; if anything it is not only a physical one, but also a psychological one. However unlike Freud’s suggested Oedipus Complex whereby the male child falls in love with the mother figure, thus growing hatred and fear for the father, due to Christina’s lack of attention and care due to her own mental illness, the complex is subverted, as Raimond grows an attachment or bond with his father, who provides him with a sense of security and belonging. The strength of this affiliation between a father and his son, is exemplary even after his father’s death, as a way to preserve and celebrate Romulus’ life Gaita writes what he calls a ‘tragic poem’. This bond between the two is no further explained by that of Romulus’ accident in which with passionate words to his son he states “Never believe I don’t love you”. The bond between the father and son is exemplary in Romulus My Father as they become reliant upon each other for the psychological support needed through times of trauma such as Christina’s death or Lydia’s betrayal.
Throughout the course of the memoir the reader is invited to become aligned in relation to Romulus, through Gaita’s skilful manipulation and craftsmanship of the memoir, his use of form successfully mirrors his purpose. The barren stark and geographical isolation of their locations heightens Gaita’s and Romulus’ need for each other and thus the need for a strong bond to exist. This is suggested not only by the events described in the memoir but more significantly through the composition of the memoir itself. This bond is similarly suggested