"Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don 't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run." -David Leonhardt
People can spend their entire lives searching to fill what they feel is that void of happiness. They will get lost in their own sense of time to find what happiness truly means. What these people are missing sight of, is when one looks too hard for something, when they are in search of it, they will never find it. Happiness does not always come in a box wrapped decoratively with ribbons and bows. It can come in fear, anguish, and pain; it can come from surprise, exuberance, and jealousy. Happiness comes from the most obscure places that some would never notice because they are looking too hard. It takes time and patience to understand where the emotions stir up to create something more than the initial reaction. Life is not handed to anyone in a written format of how it will be played out, we have choices that lead to the discovery of ourselves and what pleasures us.
You 're an ugly little boy and you 've got big ears ' he 'd weep and suffer and it wouldn 't even be true, the other thinfaced conscious concentrated patched bluejeans and scuffed shoes who watches me delicate, suffering child that grows hard and greedy with puberty (Kerouac 191).
Humans do not want to feel pain. They do not want to experience the heart ache, the fears, the deaths, and the desperation of existence. If it were up to many, they would numb themselves from pain. "Happiness and the absurd are two sons of the same earth. They are inseparable" (Camus 109). But over the years, and through many tribulations of my own, I have come to discover that the empiricism of all undesirable emotions have led me into a better
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