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Who Am I Without Him Character Analysis
In the story “Who am I without him?, “ by Sharon Flake the author made this one scene realistic , where the main characters boyfriend slaps her in the face and after the fact she apologizes to him; I feel that this sets the mood for the story . The main character in this story is in an abusive relationship. I personally cannot relate but I know someone that has been in a relationship before. This character is afraid to defend herself when talking to Raheem her boyfriend but when she has a problem with anybody else she quickly defends her self. This is an example of how Raheem makes her weak. In this scene after the main female character says “You my man! What you doing looking at her for? “Raheem slaps her. After that the character thinks about how her mom apologizes and Raheem moms apologizes when the men in their house hits them so she does the same and apologizes to …show more content…

The reason that Raheem thinks that’s it’s okay to treat a female that way is because; the man in his house treats his mother like that. And the mother of the main character gets treated like that, which makes the main character think it’s normal to get treated like that. No female should ever get treated like that. You can tell that Raheem really doesn’t care for her cause if he did he wouldn’t treat her like she was nothing. I feel bad for her cause she won’t stand up for herself. The author of this story has the main female charter seem like a desperate character and puts up with Raheem cause she feels like she has to be in a relationship to feel good about herself which is not true but that’s the only example of a relationship is the one that she gets at home. This isn’t how a real relationship is supposed to be. Raheem is a really bad boyfriend. He doesn’t respect her at all; she so insecure and likes him so much that whatever he does she lets him get away with it and act like she doesn’t see

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