Why Don T We Listen Better Summary

SUMMARIZE In Why Don’t We Listen Better, Dr. James C. Petersen presents an in-depth look at the relationship between active listening and communication in establishing strong bonds in relationships that promote nurturing and growth. These connections are essential for our relationships to transcend superficiality and reach the deep sense of connection that we yearn for as humans. Most people credit themselves as good listeners, but the reality is, they are not. Healthy communication can seem daunting at first, but there is a delicate balance at play. Dr. Petersen describes this as listen awhile, talk until the other person almost stops hearing and listen until the person calms enough to hear again.”1This helps us overcome the need to subdue “the tendency we have as humans to put ourselves above others in relationships.”2 While this can help in most scenarios regarding listening and communication, another struggle that people have is the flat brain syndrome. Each of us at one point or another deals with this, and it’s a result of an unhealthy overload of emotions, leading to a failure to operate calmly and critically. When considering the human body, there are three main areas to focus on, namely. The stomach represents emotions and feelings, the heart represents relatability, or that both parties have something to offer and learn about one another, and the head represents thinking and logic. Flat brain syndrome
I generally consider myself to be a decent listener, but I believe my marriage to my wife was the area in which I felt the most firmly established. I realized after reading the material that a significant portion of our disagreements stemmed from my failure to listen and communicate effectively. At that moment, my desire to be correct or to win an argument caused unwarranted