i statement
“I” Language Aliyah Abdella 1110-03
A.)
I feel upset when you make fun of me and don’t care about my feelings. I want you to stop making fun of me all the time.
I feel mad when you promise to hang out with me and you don’t keep your word. I want you to stop promising me that you’ll hang out with me when you really have no intention to.
I feel sad when I make a joke about something that I didn’t know was a sensitive topic to you and you can’t take the joke. I would love it if you start warning me about things I can and can’t joke about around you so I can avoid the same mistake
B.) Well when I was younger I was a huge Jonas brothers fan. I would get so upset whenever anyone insulted them. So my sister Sabrina knew that and she decided to mess around with me by saying that they weren’t talented. I got so mad that I started insulting her back and everything. It was a really heated argument. My behavior wasn’t effective at all because instead of telling her to stop (not like she would listen anyway), I just flung insults back. Maybe if I would have used an “I” statement and clearly told her what I was feeling then we could have avoided the heated argument.
C.) The other day my mom decided to use my mascara before going to some wedding and she didn’t close it all the way so it dried up. Usually I would demand that she buy me a new one but this time I used an “I” statement. I said “Mom, I feel annoyed that you used my mascara and didn’t close the cap all the way. Next time if you use my mascara or anything with a cap, I would like it if you put the cap back.” My mom seemed very surprised by that because she knows how I get about my makeup. I think this is more effective because it’s a calm way to get your point across but firm enough for the person to know that you mean what you’re saying.
A.)
I feel upset when you make fun of me and don’t care about my feelings. I want you to stop making fun of me all the time.
I feel mad when you promise to hang out with me and you don’t keep your word. I want you to stop promising me that you’ll hang out with me when you really have no intention to.
I feel sad when I make a joke about something that I didn’t know was a sensitive topic to you and you can’t take the joke. I would love it if you start warning me about things I can and can’t joke about around you so I can avoid the same mistake
B.) Well when I was younger I was a huge Jonas brothers fan. I would get so upset whenever anyone insulted them. So my sister Sabrina knew that and she decided to mess around with me by saying that they weren’t talented. I got so mad that I started insulting her back and everything. It was a really heated argument. My behavior wasn’t effective at all because instead of telling her to stop (not like she would listen anyway), I just flung insults back. Maybe if I would have used an “I” statement and clearly told her what I was feeling then we could have avoided the heated argument.
C.) The other day my mom decided to use my mascara before going to some wedding and she didn’t close it all the way so it dried up. Usually I would demand that she buy me a new one but this time I used an “I” statement. I said “Mom, I feel annoyed that you used my mascara and didn’t close the cap all the way. Next time if you use my mascara or anything with a cap, I would like it if you put the cap back.” My mom seemed very surprised by that because she knows how I get about my makeup. I think this is more effective because it’s a calm way to get your point across but firm enough for the person to know that you mean what you’re saying.