to be merely a sexual perversion. The reality is that homosexuality is multidimensional, and is much more about love and affection than it is about sex. And this is what gay relationships are based on: mutual attraction, love and affection and sex. Homosexual people should be allowed to marry. Usually, people think marriage is an institution between one man and one woman. Well, that is the most often heard argument, one even codified in a recently passed U.S federal law. It seems that if the straight community cannot show a compelling reason to deny the institution of marriage to gay people, it should not be denied. The concept of not denying people, their rights unless people can show a compelling reason to do so is the very basis of the American ideal of human rights. The second argument about same-sex marriage is that same-sex couples are not the optimum environments in which to raise children. Society allows murderers, convicted felons all sorts; even child molesters get married and bring children. The fact is that many gay couples raise children, adopted and occasionally their own from failed attempts at heterosexual marriages. Lots and lots of scientific studies have shown that the outcomes of the children raised in the homes of gay and lesbian couples are just as good as those of straight couples. (Questions and Answer about our marriage). Psychologists tell us that what makes the difference is the love of the parents, not their gender. Gay people are as capable of loving children as fully as anyone 's is. Gay men wish to have children for all the reasons that anyone else wants to become parents. Some want to share their loving relationship and affluence with a child who would not otherwise have experienced this privilege. Some wish to give to another generation the love and the blessings of a nurturing and devoted family that they experienced in their own upbringing, and still others wish to provide a child with the kind of loving environment that they themselves never received. Some people argue about the immigration policy.
Heterosexual persons have right to marry foreigners and live with their love one. If person is homosexual, he can not marry a same-sex partner from another county (Action Alert). No matter how long the couple has been together or how committed their relationship. It means that many same-sex national couples must live apart for long period of time, perhaps years or decades, until the foreign partner finds some other way to get a green card. The common argument is about the gay relationships are immoral. The freedom of religion implied the right to freedom from religion as well. The Bible has absolutely no standing in American law, and because it doesn 't, no one has the right to impose rules anyone else simply because of something they perceive to be mandated by the Bible. There should be a moot point, Separation of church and state. Some religious leaders are the most forceful advocates of same-sex marriage. In Hawaii alone, many faiths such as the Reform branches of Judaism, Quaker, Buddhist, Episcopal and many individual Protestant Congregations are involved in the pro-marriage campaign (Rotello …show more content…
16). On the opposite side of the coin, there are many faiths that condemn gay marriage. They feel that these people defy the Bible. Ultimately, the battle may not be so much about winning the right of marriage as about winning new level of respect for gay relationship. The Gay marriages are highly emotional topics in the 90s. Many people feel that gay marriages would show heterosexual people how much two people can love each other even if they are of the same sex. Homosexual relationships are more than just to share those feelings with the person they love. People have become used to the idea of defining gay people solely in terms of sexual acts, says Gregory Herek, a research psychologist at the University of California, Davis. Many heterosexuals get very nervous when they have to think of gay people in terms of relationships, because it challenges the way they have always thought about gay people. They said, they are against gay marriage because they would not want to recognize stable gay relationships, says Herek(Gallagher24) When gay people say that this is a civil rights issue, homosexual people are referring to matters like the fact that they cannot make medical decision for their partners in an emergency. Instead, the hospitals are usually forced by state low to go to the families who may be strange from them for decades. If their partners are arrested, they can be compelled to testify against them or provide evidence against them, which legally married couples are not forced to do. In many cases, even carefully drawn wills and durable powers of attorney have proven to not be enough if a family wishes to challenge a will, overturn a custody decision, or exclude homosexual people from a funeral or deny us the right to visit a partner 's grave. As survivors, they can even seize a real estate property that they may have been buying together for years, quickly sell it at a huge loss and stick them with the remaining debt on a property they no longer own. Society values those who have formed families of the social stability and productivity such constellations provide. A family may be described as a unit of interdependent and interacting persons, related together over time by strong social and emotional bonds. Its central purpose is to create, maintain and promote the social, mental, physical and emotional development and well being of each of its members. Same-sex couples from the same kind of family structures. It is now time to support same-sex relationship in the same way opposite -sex relationship is supported. By allowing the option of legal marriage. Under the full faith and credit clause of the constitution, this also forces all state to recognize these marriages as far as federal benefits are concerned. Congress has approved a bill, the defense of marriage act that will allow states to decide whether to recognize homosexual marriages. The second part of the bill would define for federal purposes as the union of man and woman. Under such a definition gays and lesbians, even if they win the right to marry in Hawaii or elsewhere, would not be able to fill joint federal tax returns, claim federal pension, or survivor 's benefits, or be allowed to file for green care status (Gallagher21). Gay rights activists say absolutely. The legal status of marriage rewards the two individuals with substantial economic and practical advantages. Married couples can file joint tax returns; Social security provides benefits for surviving spouses and their dependents. They can inherit money and property from one another without a will. They are immune from testifying against a spouse. Another advantage would be health insurance provided by employers. These benefits usually include the employee, whether of the same sex or not (Suzanne 15). Legal marriage is designed to protect intimacy in the relationship. It does this though the rights of visitation. Medical decision-making, survivorship, child custody, redresses for wrongful death, etc. Benefits are often granted to married partners because it is seen as a way of attracting quality employees. Frequent news reports confirm that same-sex life partners often have been denied a voice in their partner 's medical decisions, funerals. It is very much a civil right issue. It has nothing to do with how performs the ceremony or whether an announcement is accepted for publication in the local paper. It is not matter of special rights to ask for the same rights that other couples enjoy by law, even by constitutional mandate. If same sex marriage is made legal the next generation would not think of is as taboo. It will just be another way of life. All of the controversy has opened the door to discuss families, parenting, and equality for lesbians and gays. They believe that they will be able to raise children in a stable, loving household as most children have with heterosexual marriage. Lambda Defense and Education fund say Winning or losing any particular battle over marriage is not all that 's at stake here. What 's at stake is a historical moment to change the position of gay people in society. If we do the work right, all kinds of gains will come from it, apart from the outcome of any particular battle, he says (Gallagher 36). Bibliography Works Cited Sberman, Suzanne. Lesbian and Gay Marriage. Philadelphia :Temple university press, 1992. Rotello, Gabriel. Sexual Ecology:AIDS and the destiny of gay men. New York: Dutton, 1997. Gallagher, John. Perfect Enemies. New York: Crown publisher, 1996. Internet : http://www.indiana.edu/~glbtpoll Action Alert Andrew 's Business Site (2000, April). Available: http://www.rdmstudios.com/ourmarriage/ Questions and Answers about Our Marriage Word Count: 1534
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Of all the groups in the U.S. today, I believe there is one that possibly has the hardest time getting their point across. They work hard, day in and day out trying to find ways to express their ideas but they cannot seem to get any more support and if nothing is done to change this, we may lose them forever. To try to find a way to save them, I have decided I will try to see things from their point of view and try to show just how logical their opinions can be. For my research paper, I challenged myself to write it about why same-sex marriage should not be legalized. After three days of research, I regret to inform you that, with the information I found, there is no logical reason whatsoever that same-sex couples should not be able to get married. I have tried so very hard to find a logical argument against it but I was not able to get any reasons against it.
If I may use an analogy, their argument is like a large bucket with a hole in the bottom, except the hole is as large as the top. Also, the bucket does not actually exist but they refuse to accept that and pour into it anyway. Before I started my research, I thought of a few reasons I thought I could go further with but when I tried to make them work, I could only find arguments against them. The reasons I thought same-sex marriage should not be legalized are because a majority of people voted against it, there would be less procreation, and it would complicate laws by redefining marriage.
In the United States of America, we have a democratic form of government. One of the most important parts of a democracy is the fact that we, the people, have a say in what happens by way of voting. One thing people get to have a say in is if each state will allow same-sex marriage. As of January 6, 2010, states that allow it are Connecticut, Iowa, New Hampshire,
Massachusetts, and Vermont; California, New Mexico, New York, Rhode Island, and
Washington DC do not allow same-sex marriage but do recognize marriages legally
performed in a state that allows it (Kathy Belge, 2010). Though there are many people who voted against it same-sex marriage seems to be gaining some ground in the states. This, while taking into account the dwindling amount of homophobes in the U.S., it would appear as though it is only a matter of time until the country finally recognizes that, although people are different, the only quality we should be paying attention to when deciding who people are allowed to spend the rest of their lives with is love.
One advantage heterosexual couples have is the ability to have children by themselves.
Some people believe that, due to their inability to procreate, same-sex couples should not be allowed to get married. However, people seem to be looking at this from an angle that does not appear to be very logical. Allowing same-sex marriage would not stop procreation and, as far as I can tell, it would not slow down its rate in any way. Even if that were true, it would not necessarily be a bad thing if there was less procreation. The population of the world has grown by more than two-thirds since 1963, which means there are much more people using up the
Earth¶s resources (Larry West, 2010). If the growth rate of the population continues as it is, we may eventually have many more problems providing for them all. That being said, there is not much gay people can do to stop procreation and do not seem to be causing the problems associated with it. Therefore, it is difficult to say why people that have the strange idea that same-sex marriage would affect procreation would have a problem with that.
The definition of marriage by law is adequately specific when stating who can get married, more specifically stated by the Federal Defense of Marriage Act from 1996 that states that marriage is a union between a man and a woman (Heather Ann Gannon., 2008). Though it has an obvious legal definition (Farlex, Inc., 2010), some people have this odd concept that marriage should be allowed for couples that truly love each other and plan to spend the rest of their lives together. This is obviously a foreign concept to most people who oppose same-sex
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marriage, mostly due to their belief that the legal advantages of marriage are more important than the love that used to be necessary to make marriages work (Mary E. Hunt, 2008). Another argument used against same-sex marriage is that traditional marriage is between a man and a woman and they believe that traditions involved with marriage should be kept. It seems like it should make sense, but the more I think about it the more I wonder why people would try to force people to abide by traditional marriage. I have seen many women working and providing for their family instead of cooking, cleaning around the house, and staying home to take care of their children. Is it safe to assume that people that try to keep traditional marriages also are against women being able to work and men deciding not to work and take care of housework?
Through all my research, I have only been able to prove one thing to myself. That would be that opposing same-sex marriage does not make sense. Gay couples do not seem to be harming the country in any way, yet homophobes and the like refuse to acknowledge that. The concept that marriage should only be between a man and a woman does not seem to have any logical defense. There are some people that think same-sex marriage should not be allowed because they and others voted against it, although many other states and countries allow it.
Others think that gay couples¶ inability to procreate is cause enough to prevent their marriage, although even if they did affect the rate of population growth they may very well prevent many problems involved with resources and the environment. A third argument is that it would complicate laws involving marriage, even though marriage has been altered over the years and changing the definition would only involve changing a few words in laws. I know I may seem insane to some people for thinking this but I believe that this world would be a much better place if we stopped thinking of people by a few traits and allowed them to live their lives happily, not stopping them from enjoying some of the most important parts of life; and of course, love is one of those.
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Gay marriages have been one of the hottest and controversial topics in our society. There are still problems concerning this issue of homosexuality and gay marriages. Same sex marriages are legal in Hawaii, but in all other states couples must be of the opposite sex to form a marriage. Hawaii’s decision to legalize same sex marriages is considered a milestone victory for gays and may cause a ripple affect for similar action in other states. Those who support gay marriages justify their position by the concept of love. These supporters of gay marriages feel as though gay people are being deprived of their right to love. Many people believe that gay people deserve the right to love and to take that love and form a marriage. These people believe that gays want to feel justified, meaning that as a couple they should be able to define their own marriage for themselves and make their own set of rules. Supports of same-sex marriages feel as though homosexuals are being deprived of their God given right to get married. They believe that arguments against same sex marriages are unconstitutional, and they simply do not justify a ban on same sex marriages. It is not the idea of two people of the same sex getting married that frightens people so much, but it is the thought of change and the fact that the federal government will redefine marriage to allow same sex unions. When people picture the results of same sex marriages, they see images of unstable homes. Everyone would probably agree that homosexuality has changed our society, and legalizing same sex marriages is not likely to be an exception. It would be an injustice to discriminate against a person if he or she were gay.
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