Arranged Marriage Old School Online Dating Analysis
Amne AlRifai’s “Arranged Marriage: Old School Online Dating” is an article published on her web blog “Unveiled Thoughts”. In this post, she describes her perspective on arranged marriage. AlRifai explains how she finds arranged “matchmaking” similar, or even better than online dating, and she clarifies her point of view through her ‘wisdom’ and personal experience.
AlRifai looks at this concept and tries to make the reader see it from another perspective, using three arguments: her own tale about her opinion of arranged marriage, the similitudes to online dating that fundamentally changed her mind, in addition to the advantages of one on another. First, she starts off by expressing how marriage through an arranged process made her upset. Why? it seemed more …show more content…
like someone trying to find a car and buying it. Second, she moves to the point where she changes her opinion when she started seeing that online dating and arranged marriage are not poles apart. Listing the steps and the possible good or bad consequences of trying to find the perfect match on Tinder; contrasting them with those of an arranged marriage, and making the likenesses appear the clearest possible in front of the reader’s eyes. Third, the writer supports her hypothesis of why arranged marriage is better than online or real life dating by three reasons: The Lebanese relatives who are professional at finding the tiniest insights about the “potential partner” and their family’s history, along with the fact that the parents know their children better than anyone else, making them able to guide them with their years of wisdom, and finally, the guarantee that the fear of not being able to make it work after falling in love does not exist in such circumstances, since it happens all the way backwards. AlRifai concludes with the statement that she likes the idea of her father choosing the man that will suit her best. Nevertheless, she is totally open to either finding the love of her life when she bumps into him somewhere or having her parents introduce her to him.
Two things work to make Amne AlRifai’s article effective: her use of humor throughout the text, and her step-by-step guidance to the reader in the process of convincing them of the validity of her opinion.
Generally, AlRifai’s use of humor in different parts of the article makes the reader more comfortable, as they may probably feel more interested in what they’re examining and be encouraged to continue reading even if they do not like the topic or the type of the article. In her first argument, she uses the example of the buyer and the car: Mr. Eligible Bachelor and Miss Eligible Bachelorette, to approach the process of arranging a marriage. In fact, at that point, AlRifai is being extremely sarcastic. Equaling a MARRIAGE to a transaction reduces the marriage’s importance to much less than its actual significance. Later, AlRifai employs the humorous tone and anecdotes several times. She says, “you throw the idea around in your head, jumping from THIS IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA to WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING sides of the fence” twice; once in her explanation of online dating and the other time in the next paragraph about arranged matchmaking. She is comparing the awkwardness of both situations to state the similarity between them. Additionally, she acknowledges the investigation skills of the family by using expressions such as “uncover skeletons in the closet” and “she’ll also be a Nosey Nancy who can tell you how many times a day your potential partner urinates”. This comedy aspect that she gives in the article allows her to avoid complexity, making it easygoing and entertaining.
Furthermore, the author uses a smart yet simple path, and takes the reader by the hand from a certain level of denial to acceptance, leaving alone not preferring arranged courtship over any online dating website or just “normally” falling in love with someone and choosing to be with them forever.
Starting with the small personal story about her old opinion on the topic she’s discussing, then addressing directly to her audience, when she says “let’s have a look at online dating” and “look, maybe I’m starting to realize ...”. these genuine persuasive ways are to give the reader a feel that she is familiar with them and therefore, they can accept the idea just like she did. In a later argument, she states that by adhering to an arranged marriage “you can semi-safely fall in love with this person”, and that it is “a risk minimization strategy for heartache”. Her point in this specific part was to give credit to the positive effects of the process on the emotional side. Feelings are probably what matters most for everyone, and living with a heartache because of not being able to make it work with one’s lover is not appreciable. In other words, either way, her ability to influence the reader is clear and
undeniable.
AlRifai writes her essay effectively. She makes the essay convincing by supporting her claims with examples from her real-life experience, and nearly every reader’s daily life. She also knows what interests the public and how to use it, along with any conceivable way to persuade them to believe that her main argument “arranged marriage is the same or better than online dating” holds on solid ground. Finally, including her personal thoughts lets the reader imagine them being in her shoes, reacting positively to the situation, and accepting it. Overall, this article is effective because it is shit.
AlRifai looks at this concept and tries to make the reader see it from another perspective, using three arguments: her own tale about her opinion of arranged marriage, the similitudes to online dating that fundamentally changed her mind, in addition to the advantages of one on another. First, she starts off by expressing how marriage through an arranged process made her upset. Why? it seemed more …show more content…
like someone trying to find a car and buying it. Second, she moves to the point where she changes her opinion when she started seeing that online dating and arranged marriage are not poles apart. Listing the steps and the possible good or bad consequences of trying to find the perfect match on Tinder; contrasting them with those of an arranged marriage, and making the likenesses appear the clearest possible in front of the reader’s eyes. Third, the writer supports her hypothesis of why arranged marriage is better than online or real life dating by three reasons: The Lebanese relatives who are professional at finding the tiniest insights about the “potential partner” and their family’s history, along with the fact that the parents know their children better than anyone else, making them able to guide them with their years of wisdom, and finally, the guarantee that the fear of not being able to make it work after falling in love does not exist in such circumstances, since it happens all the way backwards. AlRifai concludes with the statement that she likes the idea of her father choosing the man that will suit her best. Nevertheless, she is totally open to either finding the love of her life when she bumps into him somewhere or having her parents introduce her to him.
Two things work to make Amne AlRifai’s article effective: her use of humor throughout the text, and her step-by-step guidance to the reader in the process of convincing them of the validity of her opinion.
Generally, AlRifai’s use of humor in different parts of the article makes the reader more comfortable, as they may probably feel more interested in what they’re examining and be encouraged to continue reading even if they do not like the topic or the type of the article. In her first argument, she uses the example of the buyer and the car: Mr. Eligible Bachelor and Miss Eligible Bachelorette, to approach the process of arranging a marriage. In fact, at that point, AlRifai is being extremely sarcastic. Equaling a MARRIAGE to a transaction reduces the marriage’s importance to much less than its actual significance. Later, AlRifai employs the humorous tone and anecdotes several times. She says, “you throw the idea around in your head, jumping from THIS IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA to WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING sides of the fence” twice; once in her explanation of online dating and the other time in the next paragraph about arranged matchmaking. She is comparing the awkwardness of both situations to state the similarity between them. Additionally, she acknowledges the investigation skills of the family by using expressions such as “uncover skeletons in the closet” and “she’ll also be a Nosey Nancy who can tell you how many times a day your potential partner urinates”. This comedy aspect that she gives in the article allows her to avoid complexity, making it easygoing and entertaining.
Furthermore, the author uses a smart yet simple path, and takes the reader by the hand from a certain level of denial to acceptance, leaving alone not preferring arranged courtship over any online dating website or just “normally” falling in love with someone and choosing to be with them forever.
Starting with the small personal story about her old opinion on the topic she’s discussing, then addressing directly to her audience, when she says “let’s have a look at online dating” and “look, maybe I’m starting to realize ...”. these genuine persuasive ways are to give the reader a feel that she is familiar with them and therefore, they can accept the idea just like she did. In a later argument, she states that by adhering to an arranged marriage “you can semi-safely fall in love with this person”, and that it is “a risk minimization strategy for heartache”. Her point in this specific part was to give credit to the positive effects of the process on the emotional side. Feelings are probably what matters most for everyone, and living with a heartache because of not being able to make it work with one’s lover is not appreciable. In other words, either way, her ability to influence the reader is clear and
undeniable.
AlRifai writes her essay effectively. She makes the essay convincing by supporting her claims with examples from her real-life experience, and nearly every reader’s daily life. She also knows what interests the public and how to use it, along with any conceivable way to persuade them to believe that her main argument “arranged marriage is the same or better than online dating” holds on solid ground. Finally, including her personal thoughts lets the reader imagine them being in her shoes, reacting positively to the situation, and accepting it. Overall, this article is effective because it is shit.