In societies with reduced mobility, (predominantly non-western cultures) arranged marriages are common as love is expected to grow due to the fact that it is not seen as necessary for marriage. Arranged marriages seem to work well and make good sense as divorce rates are low and Epstein (2002) found that perhaps about half of them report that they have fallen in love with each other.…
I knew that arranged marriage was prevalent, but not to the extent that the article explains. A particular concept I found interesting was that unarranged marriages created through love, or “love match” have their own name and unique distinction; a very good friend of mine was born in India and frequently expresses the pride he has from his parents being married by love and not by arrangement. This article encouraged me to open my mind and realize how different cultures can be. For example, instead of just expecting food, dress, and language to vary as culture varies, it is important to remind myself that everyday components of the Western culture I know can be very different elsewhere—and that the differences are…
1. Caring- Love includes caring, or wanting to help the other person by providing aid and emotional support.…
Arranged marriage is somewhat offensive to feminist America. There is a level of freedom attached to choosing who and when to marry. Hollywood portrays arranged marriage as the evil separator of lovers, the extinguisher of freedom, and the ultimate subjugation of women. Vogue has an article titled “The Arranged Marriage That Ended Happily Ever After: How My Parents Fell In Love, 30 Years Later.” The article highlights the good points of the couple’s marriage which was arranged years earlier in India. Yet, these people had a thirty-year marriage without the “passionate feelings to glaze over your partner’s flaws in…marriage” (Jacob). Marriage looks clinical and dry this way. However, this is the outside view of arranged marriage. Cultural customs…
Alix Kates Shulman is an author whose work includes fiction, memoirs, and essays written predominately from her perspective as a feminist. Shulman hails from Cleveland, Ohio and is best known for the novel “Memoirs of an Ex-Prom Queen”. She is also listed in Who’s Who in America and in Feminists Who Changed America, 1963-1975 (Shulman, Psychology Today: Alix Kates Shulman). In 1970, Shulman’s document, “A Marriage Agreement”, was published in a feminist journal but became so popular and controversial that it was later reprinted in several other publications including Harvard University’s contract law textbook (Behrens). Shulman’s idea of introducing a concrete treaty into matrimony, above and beyond marriage vows, was completely unheard of at the time. She felt the only way her and her husband could live a more balanced family life was by following a strict contract that divvied every household responsibility equally between the two of them. Men and women typically assumed the gender roles society afforded them even when they themselves didn’t agree with the typecast standards. As Shulman and her spouse experienced, fulfilling these automatic roles can lead to a dissatisfying marriage (Shulman, A Marriage Agreement 304). Although I was too young to have been aware of the wave of feminism erupting through American history, I agree that men and women were created equal and should share the same human rights as well as household responsibilities. Although Shulman was very creative in balancing her marriage and ultimately achieving her rank amongst men in the working class, I disagree with her method. Learning the true meaning of love and marriage dissipates the need for feminism, especially in today’s society.…
Arranged marriages are common in Asian countries. Some people agree to arranged marriages that are set up by their parents, unlike…
In the article “I’m Happy with an Arranged Marriage” by Gitangeli Sapra it discusses her view of arranged marriages. Ms. Gitangeli is for arranged marriage, she stated that people who get married for “love” has a 40% rate of divorce. She also states that arranged marriages have a lower rate of divorce for the fact that the couples do not want to start a wrath between their families.…
The actual definition of an arranged marriage is a marriage that is established before a lengthy relationship. So in a sense, it is the opposite of a love marriage, where marriage would be considered the final step for a relationship. This study is based on Arranged Marriages, but including; the difference of forced Marriages, traditional marriages, where it occurs, what is being done about it and how it can affect your life. These are the main areas I will be trying my hardest to investigate on.…
It is natural for everyone to need or have or want a companion to shares their lives with. It is thought normal of young adults to want a spouse and a family of their own. In relationships it is that passion “falling in love” is the dominant aspect of young adults (Berger, 2010, p.412) Intimacy is when two people know each other well enough to share secrets, as well as engage in sexual activity. Commitment is more time consuming and requires work, dedication, shares possessions, in some cases child-rearing responsibilities, and the capacity to forgive. In some international familes arranged marriages commitment is first before intimacy and passion. Domestic violence sometimes occurs but male figures of the bride usually oversees common ground is the husband is too demanding. Arranged marriages hardly ever do divorce, there’s tremendous effort in keeping the family together as well as social and family support is offered.…
An arranged marriage is a way of uniting and maintaining the difference between the rich upper class society and the poor lower class society.…
First reason I think in the same way as view 2 about arranged marriages and love marriages because I feel people should trust in themselves more than parents or a matchmaker. Based on a love marriage which mean two people trust in themselves more than someone else advice to them or decide for them of they have to do, and about choose someone to be a marriage partner for them. Just like in the Catalyst 2 book on page 93, chapter 4, reading 2, view 2, and paragraph 6 mean that they can understand their own feeling, their own decision and their mind better than just listen from someone telling them about their own future was like. Instead of let their family get involve in future partner; they can learn and…
Arranged marriage is happen a lot over seas in the western area, not so much in the United States. There is an article that is called “I’m Happy with an Arranged Marriage” by Gitangeli Sapra. In this article she discusses her view of arranged marriages. Ms. Gitangeli approves of arranged marriage, it is stated that people who get married for “love” has a 40% rate of divorce. She also states that arranged marriages have a lower rate of divorce for the fact that the couples do not want to start a wrath between their families. Is arranged marriage right or wrong?…
Why would anyone want to be in an arranged marriage? Sometimes people like to be in arranged marriages because they don’t want the freedom of picking their partner and believe it’s their destiny and some people want to meet their intimate partner on their own. While the author does show a distressing tone, it reveals the author’s attitude through the story of Farima and the customs of marriage and divorce.…
In Linda J. Waite’s pro-marriage article “Marriage Matters,” she sheds statistical light on the outweighing positive, as well as the negative, aspects of marriage. From her view, there are four outcomes which are directly affected from marriage opposing including: health, wealth, intimacy with your spouse, and, of course, the children. These four topics are the areas most affected (positive or negatively) by living single, married, cohabitating, or rebuilt lifestyles.…
Many people think that arranged marriage is a very strange thing between two people; in most cases the women actually don’t know anything about their future husband, and in worst cases they haven’t even met them. So how is it possible to be in love if you don’t know each other? That question is a very good point to start; because everyday women are compelled to marry someone against their own will, some women feel bound to the marriage their parents have planned for them for several years or because of financial issues or even to avoid being ejected. Few women have the courage to actually run away from it all and start a new life somewhere else. If the women escape, the entire family is against them, and after that, they will not be seen as a part of the family.…