Pros And Cons Of Arranged Marriage
Arranged marriage is somewhat offensive to feminist America. There is a level of freedom attached to choosing who and when to marry. Hollywood portrays arranged marriage as the evil separator of lovers, the extinguisher of freedom, and the ultimate subjugation of women. Vogue has an article titled “The Arranged Marriage That Ended Happily Ever After: How My Parents Fell In Love, 30 Years Later.” The article highlights the good points of the couple’s marriage which was arranged years earlier in India. Yet, these people had a thirty-year marriage without the “passionate feelings to glaze over your partner’s flaws in…marriage” (Jacob). Marriage looks clinical and dry this way. However, this is the outside view of arranged marriage. Cultural customs
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It “constructs alliances between families, lineages, and clans” (166). Those alliances strengthen and bolster the people. The process is far less sinister and archaic than Hollywood would lead the world to believe. There is a lengthy process in which “the young Indians play a greater part in…than they used to” (167). The custom has changed with the culture itself. Young women search for information about prospective husbands. Young men pay visits to women to discover more about them. The parents meet, searching for more than just a good bride price. The whole process begins early essentially to protect the children from themselves. Teenagers choose unsuitable partners and make rash decisions. Unplanned pregnancy is tough in American culture when the couple is adults. Teenagers who are destined to be arranged to another would struggle much more. Both the families and the prospective spouses are scrutinized. Everything from reputation to temperament is taken into account when arranging a marriage. Even the ancestors are compared to ensure no mixing of blood occurs. The entire process is thorough and selective. The family chosen will become part of the lineage, a good one must be chosen for the sake of the child and the family. American kinship greatly differs from its Indian counterpart. While Americans are neolocal, Indians are patrilocal. Indian marriages are commonly arranged, further solidifying the
It “constructs alliances between families, lineages, and clans” (166). Those alliances strengthen and bolster the people. The process is far less sinister and archaic than Hollywood would lead the world to believe. There is a lengthy process in which “the young Indians play a greater part in…than they used to” (167). The custom has changed with the culture itself. Young women search for information about prospective husbands. Young men pay visits to women to discover more about them. The parents meet, searching for more than just a good bride price. The whole process begins early essentially to protect the children from themselves. Teenagers choose unsuitable partners and make rash decisions. Unplanned pregnancy is tough in American culture when the couple is adults. Teenagers who are destined to be arranged to another would struggle much more. Both the families and the prospective spouses are scrutinized. Everything from reputation to temperament is taken into account when arranging a marriage. Even the ancestors are compared to ensure no mixing of blood occurs. The entire process is thorough and selective. The family chosen will become part of the lineage, a good one must be chosen for the sake of the child and the family. American kinship greatly differs from its Indian counterpart. While Americans are neolocal, Indians are patrilocal. Indian marriages are commonly arranged, further solidifying the