Can Tina's Life Still Be Meaningful

Do you think Tina’s life could still be meaningful? Life could be meaningful as long as Tina is able to overcome the hardship of losing her husband and daughter by accident. However, she might realize that her life became meaninglessness, since her life full of important feeling, emotions, and meanings by closely bonding to husband and daughter but all gone in sudden. Therefore, it must be a challenge to her to admit that their deaths were an ongoing natural process human being requiring going through in order to create the meaningful life.

The heavy blow of her husband and daughter death The deaths of the closest family members strike a heavy blow on Tina, and which forced her to experience a grieving period that could adversely affect
her lifespan, although Tina is a doctor with medical science view to face with human destiny (birth, aging, disease, death). She still has to take place in response to bereavement personally with setback, disappointment, and despair because there is no one able to escape from such personal feeling. According to the “Stressful Life Events (2001)” shown as below figure, spousal death and death of close family member placed at the first two positions, they are the top two stressful life events. Another statistics revealed that the surviving partner has a 30% elevated risk of death in the first six months after their spouse had died. Under such difficult context, Tina would be easier to fall into the suicide process by thwarted belongingness as deadly awaken that she is meaninglessness of her existence with Paco and Joey both suddenly leaving from the world, and therefore, she would have a strong feeling that she is extremely alone. Figure 2. Results From a National Survey of Stressful Life Events. Adapted from “International Society of Certified Employee Benefit Specialists”, by Charles J. Hobson, Dawn Kesic, Linda Delunas, 2001, Results From a National Survey of Stressful Life Events. Retrieved March 30, 2018, from https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org. Copyright 2001 by International Society of Certified Employee Benefit Specialists.
Family is in giving her life’s meanings
Newborn baby plays a key role to give the power to let Tina able to keep holding on. If Tina were the baby, would she want to be a baby without mother? The answer must be no. Therefore, baby provides her a reason to live on because she is the baby’s mother and the only person has the responsibility to take care the baby. Here gives her new meanings of life while she had lost all of her meanings by losing her husband and daughter. With Tina awaking up by her baby, she gains another new meaning of life by Paco and Joey. As father and daughter gone before the baby’s date of birth, Tina is responsible to introduce them to her baby by memory to transfer the image and details of the family members to make baby’s life like an ordinary family. Therefore, she must stay strong to live on.

Accept the sense of loss as part of meaningful life
Nevertheless, there seems no life meaning for herself as all created for her baby, this may become crisis to her lifespan if the baby has gone suddenly as well.
In this case, she would fall into the grieving process again, although she would be in a better position than before as she already experienced the death of loved one, but this may not be true. In fact, the second heavy blow might bring Tina into a worse situation as this time she lost the only attachment, and therefore, no one left to be with her in the world. With losing all the meaning by deaths of her husband and daughter, in case if the baby death followed by them, this would be a heavier blow to her as this would be the second time to take away everything else from her life. How could she be able to stand again? That is, she requires to create a new outlook on life by accepting the sense of loss as part of her meaningful life, rather than create all the meanings onto her baby in order to override the hard feeling. There is no doubt that she must find it difficult to create a brand new of life by herself the time with the sudden deaths of spousal and daughter. Anyhow, she must equip her life with new
meanings.

Finding a meaning about herself Humans are the meaning seeker from the meaningless universe as stated by Alber Camus (Existentialist).
In other words, Tina is the author of her own life, so she can add anything in terms of meaning into her own story. Again, the problem is how could she do so under the bereavement? By gathering every single piece of memory about her life to connect her past, present, and future, make that memory to be a personal narrative so that she could be easier to place herself at the better position between the commingle view of both first-person and the third-person perspective. With the mixed view, she should be able to open a mind talk with Paco and Joey from personal narrative under external perspective, and she can understand the thinking of both her husband and daughter about themselves in the relationship under internal perspective, whereby she can make sense to her life. Just like what Viktor Frankl did during the time imprisoned in concentration camp. For this reason, Tina should be able to do the same that even her loves all gone, she could still live on because she has her husband and daughter both in her inner heart. This is another form of her husband and daughter both living in the world with her to provide motivation for Tina to survive, as well as the positive meaning of her existence and
life.