Comparing Doers 'And' The Most Powerful Question A Parent Can Ask

Parenting is an acquired skill achieved usually at a early part of adulthood, or subliminally obtained from the false conception that reading a "How to Parent for Dummies" books will actually give you that skill. Two insightful passages into the world of parenting, a essay, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." written by Neil Millar and the short story "Be-ers and Doers" by Budge Wilson. Both passages attack the common ground of disrespectful children and how to raise them to your ideals. Although both passages share a similar goal they both host completely different attack strategies one much more aggressive then the other. The short story's "Be-ers and Doers" ideal of parenting is put far out of reasonable proportion, it would be feasible to think that the essay "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." is a far more reasonable approach at parenting.

Although both passages host strategies that can overcome the difficulty of parenting, only the essay "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." written by Neil Millar shows a
solution that is plausible in most of the situations parents face, where the "in your face" solution offered by "Be-ers and Doers" won't work in many settings with children and trying to shape them. The passage "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." presents a passive solution that can be applied in early childhood or later, leaving it to be extremely flexible. It encourages to "raise well-rounded, confident, considerate children that show gratitude and appreciation for all that is given to them and just a fraction of what you do for them." Unlike "Be-ers and Doers" this passage tries to hit a balanced ground of discipline, and emotional appeal; not over emphasize that the children have to work to get through life. It is key that the approach that "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." presents is so neutral to the development of the child versus trying to force them to outright change against their will, instead of trying to ease them into working without making it so much as a chore more of a duty that is established overtime.

In contrast the strategies suggested in the short story "Be-ers and Doers" by Budge Wilson demands that children conform to what you desire of them.
The antagonist in the story was the mother who tried to force her child into becoming a "Doer" and not floundering around as a "Be-er". She was a person who needed a reason for everything and had to always be doing something not enjoying life, juxtaposed to his father who was a "Be-er" who was happy with a slower life, enjoying and basking in the moments. Though this is much more relaxed approach to life, she sees this as a threat and does not want to see her son grow up into a "Be-er" and aggressively attacks his way of life trying to enforce change rather then progressively nudge someone into changing. In the end he never changed because her strategy was to attack his personality rather then suggest, reason, and try and tell him the positives of doing something her
way.

There is no doubt that in any case that anyone should select the parenting methods discussed in "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask.." are much more effective approach at parenting a child so they don't grow into "children [that] spend fifty percent of their free time surfing the net and talking in chat rooms and catch[ing] up on thirty hours of TV a week" while forcing you to slave over just mere children. Though more responsibility comes with having children there is no reason why someone should concede to their will, it is ductile and can be mended to your desire if you approach them about it with the right attitude; like the one displayed in "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask...". If you were to take on the offensive like in the short story "Be-ers and Doers" the child is likely to be resistant, making the whole effort overall ineffective. Giving no doubt that the more respectable approach at parenting is represented by Neil Millar and the essay, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..."