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Every time we communicate we choose, and use a different communication style. There are four basic communication styles assertive, passive, aggressive and passive aggressive. Generally we use a combination of these four styles; it all depends on the situation and person
Assertive is the healthiest and most effective form of style. It's how we naturally express ourselves when our self-esteem is intact, giving us the confidence to communicate without games and manipulation. When we are being assertive, we work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. We communicate our desires visibly and frankly. We know our restrictions and reject to be pressed beyond them just because someone else wants something from us. We care about the relationship and do our best for a win/win situation. Unexpectedly, assertive is the style most people use least.
Manipulation is always involved in aggressive communication. In this type of communication style, we effort to make our wants or wishes be done by people by inducing hurt or anger or threats. There is small area where aggressive behaviour is called for, like war or sports. This type of communication style never works in a relationship.
Passive communication is based on acquiescence and hopes to stay away from confrontation at all expenditure. We do not talk much, question even less, and actually do very little, in this mode. We just do not want to swing the boat. Passives have learned that it is safer not to react and better to disappear than to stand up and be noticed.
Passive aggressive communication is a combination of Passive and aggressive styles, which avoids direct confrontation, but attempts to get through manipulation. When you think about someone who needs to be taught one or two things endure, you have stepped pretty close to the conniving and sneaky world of the passive aggressive. This style of communication often leads