In Kingston story we can see that the girl with a different culture comes to a American school and she spent three years without saying a word, because she don’t know how to speak English and silence was her only friend .she was afraid of coming a victim of other because of her absent. She was a girl that is still finding herself in a place where silence is not acceptable. However When she got to a Chinese school everything changed and the people that were in silent before were loud, she felt at home and more comfortable because she could understand everything better.
Also there is another way to communicate for example In the united states many people feel that speaking directly is proper and masculine, while indirectness is viewed as weak and feminine. According to Tannen her article, “his politeness is her powerlessness”, Entire cultures operate on elaborate system of indirectness”. There is not an exactly way to speak. I believe that it is not everyone else speaks, but how you speak: this is what truly matters and no one should be able to change that.