Any behaviour you engage in that is self-sabotaging, that takes you away from what you want, or that distracts you from your goals is behaviour that is self-defeating. These behaviours zap your vitality, leaving you exhausted and without access to the powerful energy you need to create your best life.
Self-defeating behaviour is the idea that sometimes people knowingly do things that will cause them to fail or bring them trouble. It is defined as “any deliberate or intentional behaviour that has clear, definitely or probably negative effects on the self or on the self’s projects” (Scher & Baumeister 1988). Many theories as to why humans sometimes behave in a self-destructive ways have been examined by many psychologists. One proposed theory that answers this question is the Freudian argument, which states that “people have an innate death drive that impels them to pursue their own downfall and death”. This argument also concludes that people do harm themselves deliberately, even though they sometimes are not conscious of this. “Self-defeating behaviours are especially common when people feel that others less favourably than the people desire”.
Self-Defeating Behaviours - General Characteristics At one point or another, a self-defeating behaviour works to help an individual deal with a hurtful or threatening situation. Helps an individual deal with psychic discomfort.
Helps a person deal with a situation that is a threat, it never the best behaviour that could be used in a particular situation Eventually, self-defeating behaviours guarantee the consequences that the person is trying to avoid in practicing it.
Why People Choose to Defeat themselves? The speed of choice, seems easier A lack of information about alternatives Tunnel vision The cycle dominates their life
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