Divorce and Its Effects on Teenagers
Divorce and its effect on teenagers
When parents are divorced they really think of their children? Do they consider the implications of divorce on their children? What should be the priority during the divorce? Below is the story of Craig a young lady who shares her feelings about her parents’ divorce.
“A message from my mother's divorce lawyer I was surprised. Things were bad between my parents, and my mom had already threatened to divorce my dad once that year. Before things turned sour, I thought my family was completely normal. My friends had even commented that my family was perfect. It turns out, not so much it was hard for me to understand why they were doing this to my sister and me. I did not know how to react there were all kind of feelings inside of me. During the divorce my parents were more concerned about fighting for things and our custody than my sister and me, when the priority needed to be us. It was the second year after the divorce that I started talking about the impact of the divorce on me. Even private people like me need a support system, though, and since you can't grow one overnight, I ended up seeing a therapist. I can honestly say that it helped a lot and I wish I had made the decision to see one earlier the divorce made me grow up, or my parents' maturity decreased post-divorce, because all of a sudden the things they did seemed child-like. The emphasis on keeping things "fair" between them and "helping" us kids led to fights and pain. I feel like a parent myself - if I turn away for a second, when I turn back around they're getting up to trouble. Trying to fix this has taken up most of my energy for about a year now - while I advise admitting that you have no control in the situation and leaving it to your parents to handle, I understand personally how hard it is to do so, and I've battled with that for years now” (Craig 1).
People do not know what is going to be the impact in teens after or during a divorce; all situations are
When parents are divorced they really think of their children? Do they consider the implications of divorce on their children? What should be the priority during the divorce? Below is the story of Craig a young lady who shares her feelings about her parents’ divorce.
“A message from my mother's divorce lawyer I was surprised. Things were bad between my parents, and my mom had already threatened to divorce my dad once that year. Before things turned sour, I thought my family was completely normal. My friends had even commented that my family was perfect. It turns out, not so much it was hard for me to understand why they were doing this to my sister and me. I did not know how to react there were all kind of feelings inside of me. During the divorce my parents were more concerned about fighting for things and our custody than my sister and me, when the priority needed to be us. It was the second year after the divorce that I started talking about the impact of the divorce on me. Even private people like me need a support system, though, and since you can't grow one overnight, I ended up seeing a therapist. I can honestly say that it helped a lot and I wish I had made the decision to see one earlier the divorce made me grow up, or my parents' maturity decreased post-divorce, because all of a sudden the things they did seemed child-like. The emphasis on keeping things "fair" between them and "helping" us kids led to fights and pain. I feel like a parent myself - if I turn away for a second, when I turn back around they're getting up to trouble. Trying to fix this has taken up most of my energy for about a year now - while I advise admitting that you have no control in the situation and leaving it to your parents to handle, I understand personally how hard it is to do so, and I've battled with that for years now” (Craig 1).
People do not know what is going to be the impact in teens after or during a divorce; all situations are