English 1010
Essay #2
"Deadly Parenting" I am a firm believer that parents should be parents and not friends. When this "friendship" occurs some parents take it to the extreme. Judith Warner states in "Helicopter Parenting Turns Deadly" that parents of teenagers should not act like teenagers, dress like teenagers, or talk like teenagers. Parents should behave like the grown-ups they are presumed to be, not adolescents. When it comes down to it being a helicopter parent, parents tend to be overly involved at an extreme level, blow a gasket about normal teen stuff, and leave out important aspects of the parent-child relationship. Megan Mier was an average teenager that became the victim of an overly involved parent. Lori Drew got hung up on what was being said about her daughter, and her daughter's reputation, that it cause Megan to take her own life. Lori went to an extreme. "Parents aren't all sick like Lori Drew and Wanda Webb Halloway," states Warner. Wanda Holloway, similar to Mrs. Drew, is sick. She hired a hitman to kill the mother of her daughter's cheer rival. These two mothers are just a small example of how parents can really blow a gasket, although, some are more mentally stable with the results. "That is the disturbing degree to which today's parents and mothers in paticular- frequently lose themselves when they get caught trying to smooth out, or steamroll over, the social challenges faced by their children," exclaims Judith Warner. The middle/high schools years are the hardest in any teens life. They will get picked on for not wearing the expensive, name brand clothes, but just because that is the case does not mean the parents should go buy these items just to help the social status. IT IS NOT NECESSARY! In twenty years, it will not matter how much your clothes cost. There are no boundaries in parent-child relationships in present time. "People now feel like having a good relationship with your child means you're involved in