Essay On Authoritarian Parenting
As a rule, parents adore their children. Apart from families with psychological, substance, or criminal problems, for every parent a child is a significant and one of the most important parts of their lives. Depending on parents’ temperament, they raise their children in different ways; some try to be supportive, understanding, and friendly – others prefer to be strict and demanding, and so on. It is hard to say which parenting model is better or worse; but what is obvious is that controlling and authoritarian parenthood – unfortunately, one of the most popular parenting models – has a number of negative effects on a child.
It is important not to confuse authoritarian and authoritative parenting. The latter is about reasoning with children, …show more content…
Such parents often try to instill feelings in their children such as shame or guilt in order to be able to control them through “pinning” these feelings. “Do what I say, or you are a bad child,” “You should be ashamed for doing/not doing this or that” are typical phrase models for such parents. In addition to shame or guilt, authoritarian parents often appeal to higher authorities, usually to their communities or God. By doing so, authoritarian parents unconsciously teach their child to pretend and to hide their true emotions and desires, conform and obey. It is important to remember, however, that even when conforming, deep inside such children might hate what they have to do, disagree with the rules and requirements; this can lead to teenage rebellion, problems with the law in adolescence and adulthood, severe family conflicts, and so on (IRF).
The authoritarian model of parenting, despite its seeming efficiency, usually leads to results opposite to those it strives to achieve. Authoritarian parenthood often implies control over a child’s life and emotions, a high level of demand combined with a low level of warmth and support, and the requirement of total obedience. This leads to a child developing a number of psychological problems such as low self-esteem, indecisiveness, poor social adaptation, and so on. In some cases, authoritarian parenting may lead a person to commit
It is important not to confuse authoritarian and authoritative parenting. The latter is about reasoning with children, …show more content…
Such parents often try to instill feelings in their children such as shame or guilt in order to be able to control them through “pinning” these feelings. “Do what I say, or you are a bad child,” “You should be ashamed for doing/not doing this or that” are typical phrase models for such parents. In addition to shame or guilt, authoritarian parents often appeal to higher authorities, usually to their communities or God. By doing so, authoritarian parents unconsciously teach their child to pretend and to hide their true emotions and desires, conform and obey. It is important to remember, however, that even when conforming, deep inside such children might hate what they have to do, disagree with the rules and requirements; this can lead to teenage rebellion, problems with the law in adolescence and adulthood, severe family conflicts, and so on (IRF).
The authoritarian model of parenting, despite its seeming efficiency, usually leads to results opposite to those it strives to achieve. Authoritarian parenthood often implies control over a child’s life and emotions, a high level of demand combined with a low level of warmth and support, and the requirement of total obedience. This leads to a child developing a number of psychological problems such as low self-esteem, indecisiveness, poor social adaptation, and so on. In some cases, authoritarian parenting may lead a person to commit