Anyone can search Facebook and take note of the number of friends each individual now has. This number is large and ever increasing. But who are all of the people we claim to be our friends? Deresiewicz states that "friends serve no public purpose and exist independent of all other bonds" [ (Deresiewicz) ]. While this statement is true, why do we still feel the need to claim to have so many? Although Facebook did not invent the new idea of a friend, it still established that others are watching, checking the amount of friends another individual may have and judge the value that individual by this number. Deresiewicz does not use expert opinions to conclude to his findings, but the facts are apparent. It has become the norm and that is sufficient enough to convince us that what he is arguing is in fact an unspoken truth. A person can have over 800 friends on Facebook, but can count on one hand the amount of friends that would come to his aid at any hour of the night and for any reason (whether practical or not.)…
In a recent study conducted by Matthew Brashears of Cornell University, 2,000 adults were asked the number of friends whom they share a close relationship with. The average response was 2.03 and it decreased from a similar study from 1985, which received an average response of three close friends (Silard. “From Face-to-Face to Facebook”). It is proven that humans thrive on human interaction, so cutting that face-to-face off could damage humans negatively by causing them to suffer more health problems due to physical inactivity and no interaction. “People who, like the Facebook COO, claim that we have never been so connected with each other are missing a vital point: the people making all these "connections" through the Internet and social media are, in the non-virtual plane sometimes referred to as "reality," sitting alone in front of a pixelated screen.” (Silard.). Even though we are able to interact with different of people from around the world, we become isolated from the people around us. People cut off their friends and family and would rather spend time on the…
Wortham, J. (2011, May 19). Does Facebook Help or Hinder Offline Friendships?. The New York Times, p.…
Today, new generations have adapted to a lifestyle where we invest the majority of our time in technology. Technology has allowed social medias such as MySpace, Facebook, and Twitter to control who our friends are. Malcolm Gladwell highlights whether or not these friendships are truly genuine, or inauthentic ones just kept over social media. In his essay, “Small Changes: Why the Revolution Will Not Be Tweeted”, Gladwell distinguishes between these two types of friendships as either “strong ties” or “weak ties”. He defines weak ties as a group of friends that we keep over social media, but don’t really exist in real life. Although weak ties come off as a negative thing, Gladwell sees strength in weak ties. Sherry Turkle, the author of the essay “Alone Together”, would disagree with Gladwell’s views on friendships kept through social media. Turkle believes very strongly in authentic relationships, and she therefore does not see technology as something that will benefit us. Turkle believes that technology makes us unable to hold authentic relationships. Personally, I disagree with Gladwell and agree with Turkle. Technology and social media have made us loose focus on who our real friends are, and people will continue down this path of inauthenticity until fake relationships, or weak ties, are all that we have left. New generations have begun to invest all of their time in the friends that they make over social media, leaving little to no time for their real friends. Weak ties, in the long run, will completely take over the time we invest in our strong ties, thus diminishing authentic relationships.…
In the Stephen Marche’s May 2012 publication in The Atlantic, “Is Facebook Making us Lonely”, explores the history and usage of social networking along with the most recent theories in order to argue that social networking depends on the user’s motives not, social networking itself. Facebook does not create loneliness, but it does not exterminate it either. It all depends on ones usage.…
The article "Is Facebook Making Us Lonely" was wrote by Stephen Marche and was published in the Atlantic. The article catch the eye of the reader because it can be relate to our daily life in this generation. Social network is a medium where everyone involve themselves in.…
In Stephen Marche’s “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?”, published in The Atlantic in May 2012, he brings up the topic of the growing loneliness in America and its possible connection with Facebook. Marche shows us the “accelerating contradiction” (62), where the system that was designed to connect us, is actually causing us to become more lonely.…
After reading Marche’s article, I was confused because I disagree with his opinion of Facebook. Marche suggests that Facebook is making people lonely, but I believe that Marche’s correlation between Facebook and loneliness is mere speculation. Marche begs the question “Does the internet make people lonely or are lonely people more attracted to the internet?” (278) I agree with the Australian study “Who Uses Facebook?” The study concludes, “People who have unhappy family relationships in the first place seek companionship through other means, including Facebook.” (279)…
Neal Gabler’s article “The Social Networks” says “Facebook, in fact, only underscores how much traditional friendship-friendship in which you meet, talk and share – has become an anachronism and how much being “friended” is an ironic term” (par7). Sadly, it is true that people sometimes prefer to have more contact with friends through a social network, calls or texting than to be seen in person. The way people used to have coffee with friends on weekends, meet to chat about an important event that happened or just hang out with an old friend seem to have been lost along with the importance of real friendship. Now, people have more friends on Facebook that they used to have when social networks were not widespread, and probably they do not know 80% of their Facebook friends.…
In “Generation Why?” article from The New York Review of Books, Zade Smith pointed out the software are changing our humanities. Facebook is providing the “weak, superficial connections” (650). On the social networking software, “Gay kids became un-gay, partiers took down their party photos, political firebrands put out their fire” (651), users can hide themselves by editing their information and utilizing the privacy setting. The Generation Facebook is obsessed with “the vision of good life” (648), we add strangers as friends to be “popular” and post pictures to gain the “Like”. The internet where this generation living in is “falsely jolly, fake-friendly, self-promoting, slickly disingenuous” (652). We change ourselves to be like everybody else, mimicking others on…
Second, Victor Visage mistakenly states that Facebook promotes poor communication and friendship skills. He is wrong about this to because Facebook has become so universal that it allows you to make friendships with people from all around the world. He does not realize or care that it breaks down communication barriers that can only be done with a universal network like this, and permits you to connect with people that you could only connect with if you were traveling. He also does not consider that Facebook can reunite you with friends that you may have lost touch with. Victor visage could have a point in saying that Facebook…
“Right now there are more people on Facebook than there were on the planet 200 years ago. Humanities greatest desire is to belong and to connect and now we see each other, we hear each other, we share what we love and it reminds us what we all have in common. This connection is changing the way the world works. Governments are trying to keep up and the older generations are concerned - the game has new rules. The next 27 minutes are an experiment, but in order for it to work you have to pay attention…”…
Gladwell explains how the people interact with each other on social media and come together with people they may not know or have very little communication with and solve a problem. He refers to this type of partnership as “weak-ties”. The platforms of social media are built around weak-ties and could connect you to thousands of people who you haven’t ever met in your life. Sociologist Mark Granovetter says that having all of these “friends” on Facebook or a bunch of…
When you live most of your life through social media you begin to have a feeling of alone and loneliness. This happens because of your lack human communication. Instead of speaking with people in person you mainly talk through internet access. When this access is not available the feeling of being alone takes over your body most of the time especially if you have no close family by. Also studies have shown that the more lonely a person is, the more time they’ll likely spend more time on Facebook trying to find online friendships or relationships. In “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely” by Stephen Marche, Marche says…
Social Networking can even be helpful to be more close to the friends. But it also has a dark side like people are using it very frequently that they are cut from their Family, Relatives etc. Nowadays people want to spend more time using internet rather than spending quality time with their family...They want to live in the Virtual world instead of Real World. As Ferris Bueller once said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”…