Family Projection Process
According to the textbook, Family projection process is defined as “parents [who] project their own unresolved emotional attachments or conflicts onto one or more of their children. It would behoove me to say, that I believe there is a family legacy where high differentiation may not have been a apparent in many generations.
I was raised by my grandmother. She took on the responsibility, as both my parents were drug addicts.
“Grandma” was essentially a “no nonsense” woman. Her style of parenting was very intense, and in many ways her strategies were punitive and very restrictive. Her way of justifying this was that she “did not want me to turn out like my father.” I also believe her anxieties may have been a result some unresolved emotional attachments that she had in her childhood. Her mother died when she was 13, and she was raised by a step mother who was extremely strict. My grandmother was very emotionally distant, and her way of showing love was through discipline, and material things. My grandmother had this notion that if she exposed me to a spiritual upbringing, material possessions, and strict discipline, I would not turn out like my father. (Very low tolerance for differentiation) Well…… I did. At the age of 10, I ran away from home, and by the age of 16 I was addicted to crack cocaine.
Unfortunately, this family projection process may have affected my strategy of parenting, as well..I lavish my son with everything. In my household, there is a very high tolerance for differentiation. (to a fault), and my son is extremely spoiled. I’m glad that I’m aware of the problem now, and I think it’s time to make some
I was raised by my grandmother. She took on the responsibility, as both my parents were drug addicts.
“Grandma” was essentially a “no nonsense” woman. Her style of parenting was very intense, and in many ways her strategies were punitive and very restrictive. Her way of justifying this was that she “did not want me to turn out like my father.” I also believe her anxieties may have been a result some unresolved emotional attachments that she had in her childhood. Her mother died when she was 13, and she was raised by a step mother who was extremely strict. My grandmother was very emotionally distant, and her way of showing love was through discipline, and material things. My grandmother had this notion that if she exposed me to a spiritual upbringing, material possessions, and strict discipline, I would not turn out like my father. (Very low tolerance for differentiation) Well…… I did. At the age of 10, I ran away from home, and by the age of 16 I was addicted to crack cocaine.
Unfortunately, this family projection process may have affected my strategy of parenting, as well..I lavish my son with everything. In my household, there is a very high tolerance for differentiation. (to a fault), and my son is extremely spoiled. I’m glad that I’m aware of the problem now, and I think it’s time to make some