Fault In Our Stars Relationships
x Kayla Johnson
American Literature
Mrs. Clark - pd. E
8/16/14
The Fault in Our Stars
By: John Green
How do relationships between peers affect us? Hazel’s peers in her youth group, Augustus and Isaac, are both experiencing similar diseases and emotions. Peers and friends, experiencing the same things, like Augustus and Isaac are such a safe haven for Hazel in times where she is so set on making her situation as pain free for her parents as possible, that she pushes them away, contrary to filling the time she has left with them with love and joy. In these times her peers and friends become essential, and in time they come to rely on each other as their own little family. Hazel says, “I tried to tell myself it could be worse, that the world …show more content…
was not a wish-granting factory, that I was living with cancer not dying of it, that I mustn’t let it kill me before it kills me”(121). This quote was a constant reminder Hazel had to tell herself whenever her emotions and frustration got the best of her, but once Augustus and Isaac came a long and they begun their journey together, mending life-long friendships, it became apparent that meeting them let her let go and enjoy her life, they became her reminder that there’s still more to life. Augustus relies on Hazel and Isaac enormously as well to confide his dreams in, for example he says, “it’s kids’ stuff but I always thought my obituary would be in all the newspapers, that I’d have a story worth telling. I always had a secret suspicion that I was special”(240). In this quote Augustus is confiding in his friends that he just wants to fulfill his dream of accomplishing something big and meaningful in his life. As Augustus gets sicker, Isaac also confides in Hazel saying, “When the scientists of the future show up at my house with robot eyes and they tell me to try them on, I will tell the scientists to screw off, because I do not want to see a world without him”(258). This quote shows exactly how tight their friendships really are and how much they mean to one another. It is important that Augustus and Hazel have friends that can understand and confide in each other. This is understandable because their parents can only understand their emotions and their situation to a point. They are truly the only ones that can relate to being their age and the possibility of death at any passing moment. This affect Hazel and her peers tremendously, being able to be comforted by someone standing in their shoes.
How do relationships with parents and grandparents influence who we are? Augustus and Hazel are normal 16 year-olds that have parents that love them, but who are also horrified for them. They both have “annoying” overprotective parents that hover. Although this gets to be overwhelming and frustrating for Augustus and Hazel they understand fully how frustrating it is to live in a family knowing one of your loved ones will most likely pass unfairly and much too soon. Hazel so appropriately puts it, “There is only one thing in the world shittier than biting it from cancer when you’re sixteen, and that’s having a kid who bites it from cancer”(8). This quote shows that Hazel is beyond understanding of her parents, maybe even sympathetic. Both parents are also very understanding an example of this is when Hazel says, “I hate hurting him. Most of the time, I could forget about it, but the inexorable truth is this: They might be glad to have me around, but I was the alpha and omega of my parents’ suffering”(116). Hazel doesn’t think that the joy she brings to her parents is worth the suffering, but their kind and understanding hearts wouldn’t want anything else besides to be with Hazel no matter what. Augustus and Hazel’s relationships with their parents influence who they are by making them more understanding and tolerable. They are both extremely tolerable for living with the thought that they might die any passing moment, along with supporting their parents dealing with the possibility as well. Mr. Lancaster says, “You are not a grenade Hazel, not to us. Thinking about you dying makes us sad, Hazel, but you are not a grenade. You are amazing... the joy you bring to us is so much greater than the sadness we feel about your illness”(103). This is a quote that portrays Hazel’s feelings as well. Her parents love her unconditionally and will love her to the very end.
What are the spiritual and emotional effects of relationships?
In The Fault in Our Stars the emotional effects of relationships play a huge part in Hazel and Augustus’ emotions. Some might say they are both deeply and unconditionally in love, but others might say that they aren’t really in love at all, that they are just desperate to find love and wanting to experience it while they are still here. Along with the fact that they might be desperate they may just be looking for someone that knows exactly what the other person is going through and feeling. Personally, I believe that they have met their match, that they are in love unconditionally. Augustus tells Hazel, “You realize that trying to keep your distance from me will not lesson my affections for you”(122). This quote shows that Augustus is willing to fight for Hazel. This love has a huge effect on Hazel and Augustus as the book goes on. Hazel says, “As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once”(124-125). This quote represents that fact the Hazel is willing to let go and that she can’t fight the love she has for him. The fact that Augustus is slipping through her fingers, getting sicker and sicker, when there’s nothing she can do about it effects Hazel enormously. Augustus is also troubled many times throughout the book, when there’s something Hazel has trouble with or is restricting for her. One example of this would be the journey up the stairs of the Anne Frank house in Amsterdam, he is frustrated that he can not do anything to help her and that puts a toll on his emotions. There are many things in their relationship that effects both of them emotionally, but it is worth while for them, because their love is unconditional. Augustus says, “Pain demands to be felt”(57). This quote is from Hazel’s favorite book, An Imperial Affliction, but this quote also represents most of Augustus and Hazel’s relationship, they are going to feel pain, but you must go through it to understand
the true meaning of unconditional love.
American Literature
Mrs. Clark - pd. E
8/16/14
The Fault in Our Stars
By: John Green
How do relationships between peers affect us? Hazel’s peers in her youth group, Augustus and Isaac, are both experiencing similar diseases and emotions. Peers and friends, experiencing the same things, like Augustus and Isaac are such a safe haven for Hazel in times where she is so set on making her situation as pain free for her parents as possible, that she pushes them away, contrary to filling the time she has left with them with love and joy. In these times her peers and friends become essential, and in time they come to rely on each other as their own little family. Hazel says, “I tried to tell myself it could be worse, that the world …show more content…
was not a wish-granting factory, that I was living with cancer not dying of it, that I mustn’t let it kill me before it kills me”(121). This quote was a constant reminder Hazel had to tell herself whenever her emotions and frustration got the best of her, but once Augustus and Isaac came a long and they begun their journey together, mending life-long friendships, it became apparent that meeting them let her let go and enjoy her life, they became her reminder that there’s still more to life. Augustus relies on Hazel and Isaac enormously as well to confide his dreams in, for example he says, “it’s kids’ stuff but I always thought my obituary would be in all the newspapers, that I’d have a story worth telling. I always had a secret suspicion that I was special”(240). In this quote Augustus is confiding in his friends that he just wants to fulfill his dream of accomplishing something big and meaningful in his life. As Augustus gets sicker, Isaac also confides in Hazel saying, “When the scientists of the future show up at my house with robot eyes and they tell me to try them on, I will tell the scientists to screw off, because I do not want to see a world without him”(258). This quote shows exactly how tight their friendships really are and how much they mean to one another. It is important that Augustus and Hazel have friends that can understand and confide in each other. This is understandable because their parents can only understand their emotions and their situation to a point. They are truly the only ones that can relate to being their age and the possibility of death at any passing moment. This affect Hazel and her peers tremendously, being able to be comforted by someone standing in their shoes.
How do relationships with parents and grandparents influence who we are? Augustus and Hazel are normal 16 year-olds that have parents that love them, but who are also horrified for them. They both have “annoying” overprotective parents that hover. Although this gets to be overwhelming and frustrating for Augustus and Hazel they understand fully how frustrating it is to live in a family knowing one of your loved ones will most likely pass unfairly and much too soon. Hazel so appropriately puts it, “There is only one thing in the world shittier than biting it from cancer when you’re sixteen, and that’s having a kid who bites it from cancer”(8). This quote shows that Hazel is beyond understanding of her parents, maybe even sympathetic. Both parents are also very understanding an example of this is when Hazel says, “I hate hurting him. Most of the time, I could forget about it, but the inexorable truth is this: They might be glad to have me around, but I was the alpha and omega of my parents’ suffering”(116). Hazel doesn’t think that the joy she brings to her parents is worth the suffering, but their kind and understanding hearts wouldn’t want anything else besides to be with Hazel no matter what. Augustus and Hazel’s relationships with their parents influence who they are by making them more understanding and tolerable. They are both extremely tolerable for living with the thought that they might die any passing moment, along with supporting their parents dealing with the possibility as well. Mr. Lancaster says, “You are not a grenade Hazel, not to us. Thinking about you dying makes us sad, Hazel, but you are not a grenade. You are amazing... the joy you bring to us is so much greater than the sadness we feel about your illness”(103). This is a quote that portrays Hazel’s feelings as well. Her parents love her unconditionally and will love her to the very end.
What are the spiritual and emotional effects of relationships?
In The Fault in Our Stars the emotional effects of relationships play a huge part in Hazel and Augustus’ emotions. Some might say they are both deeply and unconditionally in love, but others might say that they aren’t really in love at all, that they are just desperate to find love and wanting to experience it while they are still here. Along with the fact that they might be desperate they may just be looking for someone that knows exactly what the other person is going through and feeling. Personally, I believe that they have met their match, that they are in love unconditionally. Augustus tells Hazel, “You realize that trying to keep your distance from me will not lesson my affections for you”(122). This quote shows that Augustus is willing to fight for Hazel. This love has a huge effect on Hazel and Augustus as the book goes on. Hazel says, “As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once”(124-125). This quote represents that fact the Hazel is willing to let go and that she can’t fight the love she has for him. The fact that Augustus is slipping through her fingers, getting sicker and sicker, when there’s nothing she can do about it effects Hazel enormously. Augustus is also troubled many times throughout the book, when there’s something Hazel has trouble with or is restricting for her. One example of this would be the journey up the stairs of the Anne Frank house in Amsterdam, he is frustrated that he can not do anything to help her and that puts a toll on his emotions. There are many things in their relationship that effects both of them emotionally, but it is worth while for them, because their love is unconditional. Augustus says, “Pain demands to be felt”(57). This quote is from Hazel’s favorite book, An Imperial Affliction, but this quote also represents most of Augustus and Hazel’s relationship, they are going to feel pain, but you must go through it to understand
the true meaning of unconditional love.